Another great article by Jane’s Illustrated Erotic Sex Blog. I am ‘Pressing’ this article because it is an insightful article that gives a good description on technique. Whilst we all know how to use the “button,” as Jane calls it, she takes it a bit further by suggesting how to maximize its beneficial pleasure.
I hope you take a few moment to read this great article.
This week has been slow, with only a few pieces being published. Hopefully I have chosen a good cross-section that everyone can find something they enjoy.
So What Are You Doing Friday Night? While I believe a bit more editing would have helped, nonetheless this article is a thought provoking article examining men responding to a woman who is the one pursuing them for sex.
Infidelity Fantasies a great short piece talking about the fantasy many men have but do not mention, being aroused by their wives cheating on them.
1) How I Seduced My Friend’s Wife by sexualimaginist
2) Jake’s Story (Chapter 2) by Tales of a Slut Wife
3) So What Are You Doing Friday Night? by Pyx
4) Infidelity Fantasies by Boy Lust
5) Caution! Tipsy Post by Krystalla
6) 5 Laws for Establishing Boundaries by Threesomes and Variations
7) 13 Things Porn Teaches Kids That Schools Does Not by Beyond The Tabloids
8) Surprise by Smarlene
9) Is Swinging Coming Out of the Closet by A Walk in the Snow
10) A Visit from a Friend by Sissymaid Diaries
The number of articles posted this week appears to be less than last week, which meant less posts to read. I do not know if it has to do with the Bank Holiday in the UK, the start of the baseball season in the US, or increasing nice weather. As a result I have shorten this weeks list to 10.
Cover Almost Blown by Hope Swings well written but short article describing the dangers of linking your swingers blog with your twitter profile. It is a good article reminding us how quickly our privacy can be blown.
Becoming Her Eunuch, is a good article for cuckolding fans. It is short, albeit, incomplete glimpse of what it is like to be totally submissive husband.
I am Such an Awesome Wife, by Krystalla is a short poignant article about giving permission to her husband to have sex with another woman and not feeling guilty about the decision. While many of us would say ‘yes,’ only to fear we made the wrong decision or state ‘no way,’ Krystalla shows it is possible to say ‘yes’ without the guilt.
Not All Women Swingers Are Bi by Krystalla is a gentle reminder not every woman interested in a threesome, foursome, or another variation of non-monogamy is bisexual.
1) How to Separate Sex from Love by Threesomes and Variations
2) 21 Points to consider before having your first threesome (singles) by Threesomes and Variations
3) Emotional Strength and Polyamory Go Together Like… by Loving Without Boundaries
4) Cover Almost Blown by Hope Swings
5) Becoming Her Eunuch by mdsh143
6) My Reminders by mdsh143
7) I am Such an Awesome Wife by Krystalla
8) Not All Women Swingers Are Bi by Krystalla
9) Fantasy Fulfilled by Awakening of Kitty
10) Getting a Little Risque 😉 by Lifeofalovergirl
Seven Steps to Minimize the Chance Feelings Will Develop for the Third PersonThe backbone of every successful threesome is the ability putting aside feelings for the third person in order to have an enjoyable threesome. It would be remiss of me ignoring that sex is a very intimate act whereby a bond is created with those is participate and putting aside all feelings is necessary. Instead putting aside feelings mean keeping enough of an emotional distance from the invited third person that allows the marital relationship or committed relationship to continue while still being able to have a threesome.
Putting aside feelings sounds easy; however, many of buy the relationship warranty that sex must equal love or at least, sex can only occur with someone we share an emotional bond. By buying a relationship warranty means we are buying the idea that sex is about caring and that for sex to occur we first must build a relationship with them. While buying the relationship warranty is necessary for marriage or a long-term relationship, buying the relationship warranty for a full threesome can produce catastrophic results.
So, how can you have a threesome and keep feelings out of it? Below, I will give you seven points that can help you avoid buying the relationship warranty for having a threesome.
The more time all three of you spend together the more likely feelings will develop. This is a result of proximity or simply put, a result of having repeated contact with the same person.
In order to limit the chance feelings develop due to amount of time spent together, it is ideal trying to make a decision about having a threesome based on attraction instead of attempting to develop a relationship with the third person.
Also limiting the number of threesomes, such as one-off, can help reduce this risk too.
Having a full threesome is more about having sex then forming an emotional attachment with the third person. This means the information being shared should be information that is necessary for a threesome to occur and not be information that allows the development of feelings.
Also, this includes limiting any rewarding behavior that encourages development of feelings. Rewarding behavior can be anything from looks, statements, or behavior that encourages the formation of feelings. Limiting rewarding behavior may sound as though the threesome is quite academic, sterile and void of any enjoyment. Instead limiting reward behavior mean finding a balance between letting the third person know you enjoy their company and creating a situation whereby ‘crossing the line’ happens the threesome becomes something more.
Having a history together is vital. The longer a couple has been together, understand each other, and choose having a threesome as an extension of their relationship then the less likely they are developing feelings for someone else. Also having a relationship history is vital in understanding your partner, communicating with them and being able to work with them through any tough time.
Stress and poor decision making are synonymous but deciding a threesome is a good choice during a major life change may be the decision that topples the relationship. Likewise avoid having a threesome during a time when the relationship is under stress since the may lead to the wrong decision being made.
Choosing the third person is vital for a successful threesome. Ideally the third person should temporarily fit into the relationship. Fitting into the relationship means:
It goes without saying communicating and debriefing are essential to keep a relationship healthy, including minimizing the chance feelings can develop for the third person. Without communication and discussing feelings it is likely a having a threesome will devastate a relationship.
The type of threesome you want lies with you. This means the decision
are all within your control.
Nothing in life is easy, especially having a threesome. However having an enjoyable threesome that is not disruptive to the relationship is possible but it will require work. Taking time discussing the threesome, potential choices, and its possible impact will go a long way in reducing the chance feeling for the third person will develop. Also, take time to plan it and choosing when to have it will also help. Finally all of the reading on the topic will not guarantee feeling for the third person will not develop and the responsibility for ensuring it will not happen lies solely with the couple.
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