How to persuade them to have a threesome: Secret #6 – its the relationship

Introduction

Building a house requires a solid foundation. Otherwise the house will collapse in a very short time. Having a threesome is like building a house. A good relationship with them is needed otherwise any threesome is at risk of collapsing.

Begin with the basics

Time together

The foundation to any relationship is the amount of time together and the more time the relationship is in place the more the couple becomes committed to each other. Time together and commitment do not necessarily correlate. Nonetheless the more time a couple is together the more they have invested in the relationship and the more likely they are willing to work through the issue. Also, the more time a couple is together before having a threesome the more they understand their partner’s idiosyncratic behaviors and understand their partner thereby being less likely to misunderstand their intention.

By being together for some time before having a threesome will help a couple to minimize some of the uncertainty of the outcome a threesome can bring and it gives the couple a better understanding the risk they are undertaking.

So what is a minimum time a couple should be together? While it is possible a couple that has been together for a few weeks can have an enjoyable and successful threesome, time together may become a factor for them the more they have a threesome. In my opinion I believe two to five years is a good starting point.

Communication

For any successful threesome communication is key. Communication is more than talking about where to order pizza or what movie to see. Having a threesome requires a more developed style of communication since it requires discussing subjects that more couples, who do not have threesomes, rarely discuss. This means being comfortable with any subject and being able to react rationally. Without solid communication being able to a threesome that is enjoyable is more difficult and more likely to lead to problems.

Invest time into the relationship

Avoid relationship apathy

The longer a couple is together, I believe, the more likely they are to take each other for granted. I do not believe it is intentional but I do believe with time, a routine develops. This routine leads to a level of predictably and security, which is fine. However, at some point the security that predictability provides becomes replaced with boredom. It is at this point when an affair happens.

Invest in the relationship

I believe, by investing time into the relationship it helps keep the ‘spark’ that binds the couple together and it builds long-term security for the relationship.  So what is investing in the relationship? It is anything that shows the relationship is important. This can include, though not limited to:

• Date night
• Making time for your spouse / partner
• Listening to your spouse / partner
• Saying positive things about your spouse / partner
• Saying reaffirming things
• Doing things to let them know they are special
• Looking for solutions instead of always trying to compete

By taking the time to show your spouse / partner they matter to you it increases the chances that the relationship can survive having a threesome and increase the chance it can be a positive experience.

Threesome perspective

There are no secrets to convince your spouse / partner to have a threesome. A lot comes down to what they want and if they are comfortable with the idea. This means being prepared to love them for who they are an not what they are able to give you. Having a good relationship that is full of love and respect will go a long-way in trying to convince your spouse / partner to have a threesome. However it is not the ‘holy grail.’ The best you can do is love them, be patient, listen, and by showing them respect may bear the fruit you want.

Other articles of interest

Separating Sex from Love

Communication

Bringing up the idea

Getting comfortable with the idea of having sex with someone else

How to persuade them to have a threesome: Secret #5 – looking beyond quid pro quo

How to persuade them to have a threesome: Secret #4: think marathon not sprint

How to persuade them to have a threesome: Secret #3: being confident

How to persuade them to have a threesome: Secret #2: separating emotional sex from physical sex

How to persuade them to have a threesome: Secret #1: nice to have versus must have

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8 cuckolding secrets every new couple should know

Cuckolding Secrets

We see our wife or girlfriend flirting with another guy and it gets us thinking maybe letting her fuck him would be quite sensual. Maybe there is a ‘hot’ co-worker that you want to fuck but not sure how to approach your husband or spouse. Unfortunately there are very few objective sources of information on how to plan something like this. Instead we are left with imagery of a forbidden act that is rarely publicly discussed and now in this article, some of the mystery is removed by exposing some of the cuckolding secrets

1) Cuckolding can be liberating

Confidentially cuckolding is a very eye-opening experience. I remember my first experience with Brittany. We started talking about the idea and I was fine with it. Then once she went ahead with it, I remember the near crippling fear it created for me and the panic worrying about her. I remember pacing through the house  going through a lot of feelings very quickly. One moment I am frantic worrying about the relationship and what it will mean for us. Then the next moment I envisioning her having mind-blowing sex with the other guy and I remember how the image of her having sex with someone else aroused me. After coming home and sharing the experience with me, it was stunning how liberating the experience was for me.

2) Cuckolding is not like porn or web sites

Insiders know cuckolding is very different that how it gets portrayed. Cuckolding is a forbidden activity that is not mentioned on television, the movies, or in the print media. The vacuum that is created is filled by porn and cuckolding web sites that can paint a biased picture of experience. Reddit,I believe, does a good job at providing a balanced image of cuckolding but it does not provide a lot of information regarding relationships.

Having a cuckold will forever change your relationship. It can be the poison that plummets the relationship into turmoil before finally killing it. Alternatively it can be a sensual wonderful experience that transform the relationship for the better.

3) Cuckolding comes in many forms

I believe it is preposterous believing cuckolding is strictly a fetish or it is strictly a BDSM activity. Instead cuckolding is a very sensual experience that has many forms. It can be:

• An open-relationship whereby the man remains monogamous and the woman enter in a long-term emotional relationship with another man while preserving her primary relationship
• A BDSM activity where Domination (e.g. woman taking on another lover) and Submission (e.g. male agreeing and not having sex with her prior to her being with her male lover) is a part of the experience. There can be a lot of variation and depth to the experience. A lot depends on the boundary of the couple.
• One off experience whereby the woman has sex with another man with her partner’s full knowledge and consent.

4) Cuckolding is not about penis size

I believe it is arrogant to assume small penis size = cuckolding. There is a lot of research that contradicts this argument and I believe cuckolding is a lot deeper than a one-dimensional element, penis size.

5) Communication

Cuckolding is not a threesome and it is more similar to an open relationship where one person remain monogamous. As a result the need for clear concise communication is essential. If cuckolding is going to work then as a couple need communicating and working through any issue that may arise, such as jealousy, is vital.

6) Relationship must come first

Relationship coming first is one rule I quickly learned and practice. Cuckolding maybe the steamy and tawdry experience the two of you believe you want.  However, your relationship with your spouse must take priority. Losing sight of your relationship can put your relationship into a tailspin that smashes and delivers the deathblow to it. Finding a way to maintain the relationship while cuckolding will probably the biggest challenge.

7) Cuckolding can secure a relationship

Cuckolding, I do not believe, can fix a poor relationship and I believe, if couple chooses cuckolding as a way for fix their relationship then it is likely the relationship will take a pummeling resulting in the death of the relationship. Nonetheless I do believe, if a couple has a good relationship then it is possible the result will be a securer relationship.

8) Cuckolding is about trust, power, communication

When you peel back all the layers of cuckolding the core of cuckolding I believe cuckolding is about is trust, power, and communication.

a) Trust

Without trust cuckolding, I believe, is cheating. Cuckolding requires:

• boundaries are followed
• cuckolding relationship will not bleed into the relationship
• relationship will continue

This means level of trust must be there allowing each person feeling secure in their relationship with the other.

b) Power

This will not be a treatises on the discuss of power in the relationship.

In the United States the issue of relationship power is prevalent but oddly, it is not a big topic in Europe. Nonetheless relationship power means who drives the relationship in specific area (e.g. money) and there is a constant struggle for power.

Regarding cuckolding there is a transfer of power to the woman by the man. Arguably it can be said the male is the true holder of the power in a cuckolding relationship but for this article I will keep it simple by saying the woman has the power.

Why? He is agreeing to let her have sex with another of her choice for something in return. She then takes that power to decide who she will pick and how she will allow the other man to fuck her. Essentially he is submitting to her will. Depending on the dynamics of their relationship, power in the relationship may be very one-sided or it maybe more egalitarian.

c) Communication

Communication has already been addressed and I will not regurgitate it here. Instead I will state at is core cuckolding communication can be the drive that improves the relationship by forcing the couple to rethink how they communicate with each other. Cuckolding will fundamentally force changing their communication style in order to accommodate the additional demands cuckolding will place on them. If done right the changes made by a couple regarding communication maybe the behind the scenes reason they appear happy to other couples.

Finally – the secret is

Cuckolding is seen by many as a forbidden activity because of its mystery and potential risk to a relationship. Nonetheless there is nothing to fear if the secrets of this forbidden activity is understood. The key in having a thrilling cuckolding experience is communicating and respecting boundaries.  If you can respect each other and communicate then I can almost guarantee that you will have an enjoyable cuckolding experience.

 

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Meeting Victor

The phone rings daily at our house and it sounds the same. It reminds me a lot like watching a television show that you have seen so many times you know it by heart and you can do anything while watching it because it is so familiar. This time, however, the ring makes my heart race and palms sweaty as I heard Maria in the background saying, “we look forward meeting you.”

At the point I knew she will be saying, “George you need to get ready and we need to leave within the hour.” From experience, I know, Maria cannot get ready in a hour and most likely it will take us nearly an hour and half before we are out the door. Nonetheless I will humor her and show her that I can be ready within the hour.

“George”

“Yes dear”

“Its a go. We are meeting Victor in a hour at our favorite restaurant.”

“An hour? Don’t you need more time?”

“I have already showered and all I have to do is put my make-up on. That should not take me more than 20 minutes. We are going to be late if you do not hurry.”

“I know. Did you tell Victor we might be late. We both know when you believe 20 minutes it is more like a hour. You still have to get dressed?”

Looking at Maria I could see a girlish glee come across her face, as though she is going on her very first date. I know not to be critical of her and I know not to crush her idea of her being ready in 20 minutes. If I do then it is going to have a negative impact on the evening.

Tonight is some ways is a first date for her since it is our first time having a threesome and we spent a lot of timing planning it. The last thing that needs to happen is starting the evening on “the wrong foot,” by making inappropriate comments.

“What do you think I should wear?” She asks standing in front of me topless and with the light in the room actuating her her perky 34B breasts.

“I think maybe your black dress with your black strapless bra and no panties might be a good idea?” Walking away she goes into the bathroom closing the door. “I need to get showered and ready too.”

“I do not want the mirror to steam and I will be out in a few minutes.”

A few minutes actually was actually more like a half-hour, “You know when are not going to be out the door within the hour since I am still not ready.”

Taking the shower gave me a minutes reflecting on the evening and what it will entail. It made my heart race and it gave me an erection in the shower. Also, it made me nervous about lies ahead and how I will be able to handle everything.

Dressing after the shower Maria was ready and we left. “Did you let Victor know we are running a few minutes late?”

“Don’t be foolish, I told him since it was short-notice we will get there when we can.”

“How will we notice him?”

“He told me that he will get a table and to ask for him once we get there.”

Walking into the rest restaurant it feels different and then to ask for Victor’s table it made the experience even more odd. “Victor’s table, please”

“This way,” said the hostess.

“We finally meet. I am George and you have already spoke to Maria.”

“Nice to meet you, please sit down.”

The conversation was fairly typical about the weather, our jobs, and what we like to do. This took us through the drinks and a part of the meal. As we were growing tired of the pleasantries I began shifting the conversation towards sex. “I understand Victor you find my wife attractive?”

I could see Victor staring at Maria’s cleavage and his attempts to put his hand on her leg.

Face flushing bright red Victor responds nervously and cautiously, “yes I do.”

“You do not need to be shy about it Victor we are all adults here and we all are here for one reason.”

“I know,” Victor said.

“How about you come back to our place Victor for some after supper drinks and we can talk more about how much you find Maria attractive?”

“I would like that.”

“Good, we will pay for supper and you can follow us back to our place.”

With that said I paid for supper and we got into our car. “Are you sure you want to go though with this?” I asked Maria

“Yes I would love to have the both of you fuck me tonight.”

A few minutes later we arrive at our place, “Why don’t you go upstairs to make yourself more comfortable and we will join you in a few minutes, dear.”

Giving Maria a chance to get ready I pour Victor and myself a glass of wine. “Maria is quite happy you chose to come back here with us. I will give her a few minutes and we can join her.”

We drank our wine and I said, “I think Maria has had enough time, please follow me.”

We walked up the stairs into our bedroom. The curtains were closed and the light was out. Only the hall light lit the room. Maria is laying on the bed naked with her legs spread and her nipples erect. I guide Victor to the bed gesturing to him to eat her out and I begin to caress her nipples.

Maria begins quietly moaning, “don’t stop,” she says in a very soft and quiet voice. I can see Victor enjoying eating Maria out and she grabs his head directing it where she wants to be serviced. Then I take step back to watch and I can feel my cock being rock hard. Then I can see Victor craw on top of her sucking on her left breast while playing with her right nipple. It is not long before he rolls her on her belly and he moves between her legs to play with her ass. He starts to lick the outside of her ass before he lubricates his finger placing it in her ass.

“More,” Maria says. “Don’t stop”

At this point Victor pulls his finger out and lubricates his cock before he enters her ass.

“Oh yes, fuck me,” yells Maria

I can see Victor beginning to fuck Maria in her as by starting slow before he picks up his pace.

“Yes, oh yes”

Victor moves a lot faster and Maria’s moans of pleasure becomes louder.

“I am going to cum,” yells Maria

I can see her body tensing and then a few moments later Victor tenses shooting his load into her.

Then I move to the bed, guiding Victor out of the way. At this point Maria’s pussy is sopping wet and I can feel how hot it is. From watching the two of them fuck it does not take no more than a few thrusts before I shoot my load into Maria.

The excitement of the evening brought it quickly to an end. We thanked Victor and fell asleep in each other’s arms.

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