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Perils of using a friend or co-worker for a threesome

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Is it a good idea to invite a friend or co-worker to a threesome?

For a threesome to happen a willing third person is needed that understands what the couple is wanting and on the surface it sounds relatively straightforward. For a couple just starting their search a friend or in some cases a co-worker seems like a natural starting point. Since a relationship already exists and something is already known about them. However, because a relationship already exists it can create further problems that the below examples will try to highlight.

Friend and Co-worker examples

In order to make the discussion clearer this author will use a fictitious couple, Couple A, George and Mary, who agree on a two male threesome. They begin their search by joining a few threesome friendly sites and after a few days grow weary of the process. Their first reaction is to forgo having a threesome and after a bit of contemplation, Mary suggests Henry a friend of George. George and Henry have been friends for a few years plus they work together. At first George resists the idea, thinking Henry was not a good choice. Then George recalls conversations he has had with Henry and how much Henry found Mary attractive. George for a while wanes on the idea but after repeated failures with their search, George acquiesces, agreeing to invite Henry.

Shortly thereafter, George invites Henry to join Mary and him for supper. Henry believes it is going to be a quiet evening with conversation and some drinking with friends. The evening begins like any other evening they spend together and about 1/2 through the evening Mary begins flirting with Henry. Henry is not sure how to respond and a few moments later Mary ‘excuses’ herself to go to the bathroom. While Mary is gone George explains what they have planned and after some reassuring Henry agrees.

Upon returning George signals to Mary that Henry is interested and the evening continues with all three going back to their place for drinks. Mary then leaves to ‘get into something more comfortable’ with Henry and George following her a few minutes later. The threesome occurs and afterwards negative feelings remain about the threesome. Furthermore the friendship between George and Henry decays. Along with their friendship decaying their working relationship suffers, ultimately leading Henry to leave his job.

The above scenario shows a potential impact of choosing a friend is the loss of a friendship and the potential impact on other parts of the participants’ lives. Going back to the above scenario it is possible that one of the friends could have taken out a grievance against the other in the workplace, led to claims of discrimination, or harassment. This could have an impact on the career and livelihood of the other. However, in this situation, the result was the lost of friendship.

Scenario two: George and Melissa is another fictitious couple that are pursuing a single female for a fmf threesome. After two years of searching for the elusive single woman they are about to give up on their search until Melissa suggests a friend Matilda at her job. Melissa works for a SME where everyone knows everyone and there is a feeling of belonging to a family. Matilda is a single woman a few years younger than Melissa and Matilda is supervised by a manager that reports Melissa. She decides to invite Matilda over for supper with George and herself. Things go smoothly and things progress to a threesome.

A few days later Matilda becomes upset about the threesome and questions if it is the right thing to do since Melissa manages her line manager. After taking legal advice Matilda decides to file a sexual harassment complaint against Melissa resulting in Melissa loosing her job.

This scenario, which is fictional, does highlight the legal and career costs to using a coworker for a threesome. Even if two people are the same pay grade, filing a grievance based on bullying or sexual harassment is possible. Therefore it is important to consider the career and legal implications of inviting a co-worker for a threesome.

Questions

This brings up the important question for any couple considering a threesome with a friend, what is more important the friendship or the threesome? In most cases, this author feels, the friendship would take precedence over the threesome. If this is the case, then the couple needs to consider closely the impact of the threesome on continuing the friendship.

Finally this brings up another important question, is there a way to have a threesome while maintaining the friendship or working relationship? It is important to remember once the suggestion is brought up the friendship or working relationship forever changes. In this author’s opinion maintaining the friendship might be possible if the friends can discuss the idea beforehand, work through any feelings, and discuss how the friendship could return after the threesome. Unfortunately with labor laws it can make using a co-worker more difficult. Therefore it is possible, though not advisable, to use a friend or a co-worker for a threesome. The risks, this author feels, outweighs any potential benefit from that choice.

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