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An introduction to anal sex

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Anal Sex Diptych

Introduction

Have you ever tried anal sex but found it did not work because it caused pain or discomfort? Maybe you tried it and found it was like trying to nail gelatine to a wall? Anal sex is a lot like a fine wine, to be appreciated, it needs to be savored over time, it needs to be understood, nurtured, and allowed to develop.  It is something that a couple can share or be shared it in a threesome. Once it has, it is ready to be picked for enjoyment and the fruits that it can bear can be quite intoxicating.  If you are ready to learn how to grow and enjoy anal sex this guide will help you.

Anal Sex – Techniqe

If you have medical problems that involve the colon, rectum, vagina, or anus then medical advice should be sought before trying anal sex. Also, it goes without saying anal sex involves penis, a dildo, or a strap-on.

The starting point is finding the time when you are not looking for a “quickie” and there is time to devote to foreplay. Foreplay is essential for enjoyable anal sex as it provides proper arousal and by being properly aroused it helps to limit any discomfort / pain. Also it allows excitement to build and builds a bond that can bring closeness.

Once your partner is properly aroused then next step involves stimulating the anus. This should be done using a water based lubricant and it should be liberally applied. It should first be applied to the outside of the anus and your index finger. If the person who will be receiving anal sex is inexperienced then it is a good idea to us your index finger to stimulate the area around the anus before trying to insert it.

As you stimulate the outside of the anus you may feel it relax, which is good and if you do, you can try slowly inserting your finger.  Even if the anus does not relax, if it is lubricated, then you try slowing inserting your lubricated index finger. If you meet a lot of physical resistance, as you try to insert your finger, then stop and have your partner take a deep breath then slowly exhale, have them repeat it if necessary. This should help them relax the anus if you continue to get a lot of resistance then pull out your finger followed by lubricating the area again. Now try reinserting your finger again. For those just starting out this may be as far as you get the first time. If it is do not worry since it is not an issue and the next time might be easier.

If you are able to get your finger inserted, move it around. Hopefully you should feel an anus relax and become more pliable. As it becomes more pliable you should lubricate your middle finger too and insert it. Also this will be a good time to apply more lubrication to the anus. Again, if it causes discomfort then have your partner take a deep breath followed by them slowly exhaling, having them repeat if necessary. Once your partner’s anus is pliable with two fingers in it then it is most likely ready for penetration.

There are two good positions that this author believes works well for anal sex. First position is doggie style with the hips aligned for anal penetration. Second is missionary with the hips pushed forward or raised for anal sex. Other positions like cowgirl or reverse cowgirl, this author feel does not work, for anal sex since penetration is not as controlled.

Once you have chosen the position the male should put a condom on and use a water based lubricant. The condom is not prevent pregnancy since the risk is quite low; instead it is to protect against UTIs and STDs. After the condom has been put on then he needs to enter very slowly and if his partner complains of discomfort then he needs to stop. If the discomfort continues his partner should try the deep breathing, mentioned earlier in this article, and once the discomfort passes then he should continue to enter slowly, stopping when required. Then once he is as deep as he can go then he should begin to move slowly. As he moves he should be synchronized with his partner’s comfort level and if his partner appears comfortable then he can try to move faster. However he should not go too fast because of the risk of discomfort and it should be measure to give the level of enjoyment needed.

Conclusion

Anal sex is a technique if done properly can bring a lot of pleasure to all. It is something that needs to done when there is time available and may take a few attempts before it works, thereby implying patience is needed. The more a couple or a threesome can communicate about comfort levels the more likely it will work.

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