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If we have a two male, mfm, threesome will there be male on male contact?
In most cases, no, since most mfm are straight (no male on male contact). However, if it something, as a couple, you are looking for then it is possible to find a bi male but be safe in regards to STDs / STIs.
Couples looking for a two male, mfm, threesomes are looking for another male to join them because the primary male cannot meet the female’s sexual needs?
Most couples that look for a second male have stable relationships and have a threesome because it is their choice. This means you are being invited to join them because they are looking to explore their sexuality and not because there is an underlying issue in their relationship.
What types of risk exist with having a mfm threesome?
The biggest risks includes, though not limited to:
- STDs / STIs
- misunderstanding boundaries / miscommunication
- conflict during or after the threesome
- ending of the relationship
My husband / partner wants a mfm threesome, does it mean he is gay?
Most likely no, most threesomes are two male threesomes that are straight. Very few two male threesomes involve male on male activity due to risk of STDs / STIs. Even if there is some male-on-male contact it does not mean he is gay. A threesome situation can be quite arousing and allowing opportunity for exploration whereby some same-sex contact does occur. Then after the experience there is no further interest in the same-sex. However, if you are in doubt then it is important that you speak to them about your concerns.
Where are some places we can meet men interested in having a threesome?
There are many places you can search and you may find someone interested in places that you may not expect to look. Nonetheless there are a few places you can try but remember to do it safely:
- Internet threesomes, dating, and swinging web sites.
- Swingers clubs on premise
- Off premise swingers clubs, munches, and meet & greets
- Swingers Parties
- Dogging locations
However there a few choices to avoid such as:
- ex boyfriend / girlfriend or ex spouse
Are there any bad reasons to have a threesome?
Yes they are and they include:
- Feeling pressured
- Doing it to please your partner
- Being coerced or manipulated
- Using it as a way of preventing cheating
- Getting drunk and / or high to have a threesome
Will getting high or drunk increase my enjoyment of having a threesome?
Getting high and / or drunk is very bad idea when having a threesome. Reason being you need to be in full control of your decisions and keep up your boundaries. Without being in control of your decisions you put your safety and health at risk. Simply put if you need to get high and /or drunk to have a threesome then you need to reconsider the idea.
What positions can you do in a threesome?
Any position works in a threesome but there are two other positions, split roast and dp.
I am a female who will be having a two male threesome, how do I divide my attention including who do I have sex with first?
You will be the center of the male’s attention. Nonetheless, how you focus your attention may have a significant impact on your relationship. The best advice is to speak with your partner before the threesome and then communicate it to the invited male.
Having two men will mean the female will have sex multiple times?
It is possible that she may have sex more than once. However that will depend on the planned threesome structure, expectations, and if any of the men of suffering from performance anxiety (e.g. inability to get an erection, inability to support an erection, premature ejaculation).