Chapter 1 Michelle’s journey of becoming a hot wife


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Michelle’s summer 2009 vacation with me brings many fond memories. We were ‘on the top of the world’ with Michelle’s promotion and my successful business. As a way to celebrate our new success we decided to drive four hours to Las Vegas for a week-long getaway and at the time I did not know what would transpire.

We left on 15 July and that day is permanently etched in my mind. It was a hot sunny day without a cloud in the sky. The type of day when being out side in the sun for more 10 minutes mean you are dripping with sweat and the anything that can cool you down is a very cold beer. Because it was so hot outside we decided to take our BMW with it rag-top roof so we can drive with it down.

About an hour after leaving Michelle turns to me with her long black her blowing in the, and her sunglasses covering her blue eyes and her oval face with perfectly flawless skin. As we travel 70 mph down the interstate, she grabs my arm in order to grab my attention. Looking down and away from me she sounds nervous when she says, “I have something to ask and I am not sure what you are going to say.”

At that moment my heart begins racing and stricken with fear, “What can she be wanting?” I know we have been busy and for the last two years our careers took precedent over our relationship. Not sure I knew what she was going to say, I acted as though I was focusing on the road even though there was not another car for at least a mile.

Then there was a bit of playfulness in her voice as her fingers walked up my arm and she lightly grabbed my forearm as she pulled herself into me. Her touch was very welcoming it made me feel close to her and for the first time I in about two years work was the further things from my mind. “I have been thinking maybe this week I could be naughty for you.”

I became hard, my breathing increased, and my mind started rushing with many possibilities. It became difficult to concentrate and luckily we were the only car on the road or there might have been an accident. “What do you mean?” Sounding surprised and nervous.

“Well,” pausing for a moment, “I have not been completely honest with you.”

“How, so?”

“I know how you fantasize about me fucking another man for you in a threesome and I have resisted the idea. Well, lately I have been thinking how great it would feel to have another cock in mean and feel him exploding deep inside me.”

If it was not so hot and if I was not driving, I probably would have had an instant orgasm that would made me cum inside of my pants. For the next three hours that is all I could think about happening on our vacation.

Vegas

 

It was mid-afternoon during the hottest part of the day when we arrived at our mid-strip hotel. We entered our hotel and Michelle immediately wanted to shower. After her proclamation in the car I knew I wanted to fuck her right now. “You can shower once I am done with you.”

Throwing her to the bed, I unbutton her white silky blouse and quickly unhooking her bra, exposing her 36 B breasts. The right breast is slightly smaller but when she is aroused her nipples get very erect. As I begin undressing her I notice how smooth her skin feels. It feels delicate and smooth as a rose petal. Too rough it would destroy it. Moving down her abdomen towards her thighs, kissing every inch, I begin sliding her pants off exposing her hairy mound.

Each time I touch it she quivers and gasps for air. I do not move immediately for her pussy. Instead I tease her a bit by kissing and caressing her inner thigh. Watching her tremble each time I touch her.

Once I have thoroughly aroused her, I begin stroking the side of her clit and I see it is quite enlarged. Then I use the tip of my tongue to stroke her clit as I begin to finger her wet moist pussy. The tightness and warmth of it is quite inviting. As I pull my two fingers out her moisture drips from my finger.

By this point I am quite hard and cannot wait no longer. Slowly entering her I can feel her vagina envelope my hard penis. At first I move slow, wanting to savor the image of another guy inside of her and her pussy grasping his shaft as he goes deep in her. Then I envision him uncontrollably thrusting his cock deep in her and her screaming in pleasure. Soon the picture is too much and I explode in her, filling her up with cum.

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15 WordPress articles you may have missed during the week of 22 April 2014


Here is another installment of good WordPress articles that have been published over the last week that you may have missed.

In case you are wondering how I select the articles to list. I have read all of them list and feel there is a great quality about them. Great quality means the author has something useful to say that relates to the topics my followers enjoy reading.

Each article relates to sex, threesomes, or a similar topic such as relationships. Generally I tend to pick well written articles in English that are at least a few hundred words in length, ideally a minimum of 5oo words but I will pick an article that has less, and provides my followers with some insight on a subject that interests them.

This week it seems as though Kirstalla’s Blog along with Sex and Regex are batting 1000 with two very well written articles this week.

I hope you take a few minutes to read them. If you like them show the author your support by liking it and leaving a positive comment.

1) TMI Tuesday –  Arousing by Filled and Fooled

2) Threesome #2 by Sex and Regex

3) Threesome Insecurities Followup by Sex and Regex

4) Surprise Party by Sexxxy Milf

5) How We Opened Up and Beyond by Krystalla‘s Blog

6) Deep Desires by Krystalla’s Blog

7) The First Mistake by Swingertopoly

8) My First Date in 8 Years by Poly Pocket of Love

9) Ethical Non-monogamy: Can Sharing Lovers Work for You? by The Wilson Report

10) We Just had an Orgy by Camgirl Sex Stories

11) Pussy Eating Treasure by Janes Illustrated Erotic Sex Blog

12) Curious Mom from the Burbs by Janes illustrated Erotic Sex Blog

13) Finding the balance: Progressing the discussion of having a threesome without collapsing the discussion by 3somes and variations

14) Fantasizing about my Cheating Wife by Cuckold Confession

15) Three by All of my Filthy Little Secrets

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Finding the balance: Progressing the discussion of having a threesome without collapsing the discussion


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Imagine for a moment having an amazing heart-to-heart conversation about having a threesome but no decision has been made about the next step. Maybe the conversation did not go as expected, a few months have elapsed, and it is time to ‘test the water.’ The challenge is finding the balance between discussing the idea and not causing a complete collapse of the idea.

Start with yourself

In previous articles the importance of understanding your needs and how you envision the threesome is discussed. This means doing some introspection, thinking about possible scenarios, and thinking about your needs. Also it requires thinking about the relationship, the risks you are willing to take, and how you may react. Finally it involves doing some research into the topic. Without having a vision of a possible threesome, revising it, and thinking about it it is nearly impossible to communicate it to your partner.

Having a history together

History regarding a threesome means being together long-enough where each person in the relationship understands how each other responds to a situation, having a communication style that is unique to the couple, and having been together long enough the couple has been able to work through a few difficult situations. Essentially, history means know what makes your significant other operate and knowing how they are likely to respond. Without understanding your ‘significant other’ the chance of catastrophic failure, when trying to progress the discussion of having a threesome, is high.

Confront Challenge

Academic textbooks are written on confronting and challenging; however for this article a brief explanation will be given. Confronting someone, sometimes referred to challenging, can provide an opportunity to persuade them by opening them up to another perspective by confronting / challenging the flaws in their belief.

Successfully challenging / confronting a belief requires a clear understanding of the direction you want to take with the discussion and enough knowledge about the topic any resistance can be met. The goal is not to start a fight to the death over having a threesome. Instead, if done correctly, the technique can be used in regular conversation and help progress the conversation by alleviating any outstanding fear / anxiety over the idea.

Time

Being human mean we change and being human mean we are not the same person we were yesterday. So what allows us to change? Our experiences, our challenges to our beliefs, and events in our lives. As a result, we learn and make the necessary changes. Regarding discussing a threesome, it can mean resistance to the idea has changed and there might be a willingness to discuss it.

So how much time is needed? My feeling if a relationship is new then at least two years before discussing the topic. This will give time to build the foundation of the relationship along with having an opportunity to work through any crisis and develop a sense of security.

Regarding how long the idea should be dropped before picking up the conversation again? There are some who feel if your ‘significant other’ says no to the idea then the topic is dead unless your ‘significant other’ bring up the idea. I disagree with it because I do not feel it is communication because a need is not getting met in the relationship. My feeling six months minimum but ideally a year. This will give your ‘significant other’ a change to think about the topic and a chance to ask any question they might have.

Relationship

Without feeling secure in the relationship  any discussion regarding having a threesome will fail. This means the first step in striking a balance require that security and trust are present.

Conclusion

Answering the question where does the limit exist for discussing a threesome when there is resistance to the idea or the direction is not clear? The answer is dependent on the situation and the couple. This means history together, the depth of feeling secure, and the ability to communicate are essential if the discussion is to progress. Without feeling this and without feeling confident about discussing the topic then it is likely this issue remain unresolved.

Other articles you might enjoy

https://3somes.wordpress.com/2014/02/22/family-message-about-sex-and-impact-on-wanting-a-threesome/

https://3somes.wordpress.com/2013/12/18/working-through-the-tough-times/

https://3somes.wordpress.com/2013/12/08/what-makes-a-couple-successful/

https://3somes.wordpress.com/2013/10/24/perception-and-cheating/

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10 Threesome WordPress Artilces you may have missed


Below are some great articles that you may have missed this week on Word Press and I hope you take the time to read some.

The Zen of Making a Threesome Liberating by Threesomes and Variations

The Power of Threesomes by Dancetinyfox

How to Have a MFM Threesome Without Being Bisexual by Threesomes and Variations

On Being a Part of a Triad by anitrafigueroa

Being in Control Doggy Position by janeseroticblog

Today She Admitted Her Preference for Her Lover  by hercuckhubby

My Out of Control Horny by Monkey in a Cage

The First Mistake by Swinger to Poly

Do You Fantasize about Your Wife Having Big Cock Sex by Love Small Penis

The Worst Sex Face Ever by The Shit Show That is My Life

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A teaser – A hotwife story Randy, Mark and Mary


I am floating a part of a chapter for my next kindle book. I hope you enjoy.

IMG_8531 updatedChirping of birds, the bright spring sun shining through the bedroom window and Mark making breakfast pulls Mary from her slumber. It is much like an opening scene from a movie where everything seems perfect. A loving and understanding husband putting his wife’s needs before his. The house in a large perfectly groomed yard that is located in a quaint ideal town and ideal non-intrusive neighbors.

As she slowly gets out of bed she realizes her discussion with Mark, last night, regarding seducing Randy made sleeping difficult and contemplates the result of her unannounced visit with Randy later today. In her mind she sees many possible scenarios from him rejecting her to them being in bed naked with Randy being unable to get an erection and the fantasy that always gets her wet, a steamy sweaty orgy with several naked people performing various sexual acts on each other that looks like something from a porno movie. However, she knows Randy is still mourning and the former of her sexy scenarios will most likely be the result. Nonetheless, the thought fills her mind and her thoughts starts shifting about thinking her approach.

Yelling to Mark, “I am not going to wait. I am going to shower and then go over to Randy’s” About 45 minutes later Mary walks out the door wearing short-white blouse, short black skirt with no panties, black tights, and knee length black leather boots. As she leaves Mark is in the kitchen working from his laptop and does not notice her leave.

Walking next door to Randy’s house Martha, the preacher’s wife walks out of her house towards the church and yells to Mary, “Hi dear aren’t you a bit underdressed for this time of year?” Ignoring Martha, Mary knocks on Randy’s door.

“A bit early? I was not expecting anyone this early. I am not really dressed”

“Not to worry.” Mary feels like someone who is about to do their first presentation in a corporate boardroom and unsure how she is going to approach her seduction of Randy. Nervousness grabs her blindly like a young victim walking home though the dark alleys after a night of drinking unaware that her captor is waiting for her. Stuttering with her hands gently trembling, “Oh the reason I am here, I am wondering if you have some coffee and sugar we can borrow? We are all out and we just do not have the time to go buy some. If Mark is in the office he will usually buy some on his way home. Since he is working from home he cannot leave.”

She knows it is a lie that is leaving her feeling exposed and defenceless. If he lets her inside, how will she proceed? Mary thinks to herself by considering the possibilities. Will it be a steamy fuckfest where they rip of their clothes and have wild passionate sex? Or will the tension build until they release it like a dam releasing water in order to prevent a flood? Maybe he will not pick up on the cues leaving with sugar and coffee? “What happens if he reject me? How will I face him? What will the other neighbors think?” To Mary the few moments feel as though an hour has past.

Suspecting Mary is at his door for another reason, Randy thinks to himself, “Why would she come over wearing a short skirt and leather boots up to her knees to borrow coffee?” He pauses for a moment warmly responding, “Come on in and I will see what I have,” as he smiles at her. Walking inside, in front of Randy she turns facing Randy. “I will be right back,” as he eagerly leaves and pretends looking for the two items she is requesting. She waits a few moments until he enters the kitchen and begins looking for the coffee. Slowly she begins unbuttoning the top three buttons of her blouse, exposing her most of her breasts.

Mary quietly walks and times her entry into the kitchen when he has his back to her. Randy senses she is in the kitchen but continues acting as though he is not aware of her presence. Her presence reminds him meeting his wife for the first time eliciting many different feelings of excitement and wonderment. He begins reaching for the coffee in the cabinet over the stove and Mary walks up behind him wrapping her arms around his chest and pulling him close to her. As she feels his back pressing against her chest, it makes her feel secure. Pulling him into her, Mary feels the softness of his shirt against her bare chest.

“I thought you wanted coffee?” Randy teasingly asks.

With a seductive and vulnerable sounding voice, “I only used that excuse to get through the door because I want you,”

“I find you attractive and I have wanted you since I first laid eyes on you.”

Randy turning around to face Mary with her coyly smiling at Randy, “I know. We do not tell many people but Mark and I are very much into the lifestyle.” She pauses, unbuttons Randy’s jeans, and slides her hands down his pants lightly grabbing his manhood. As she grabs his manhood, she looks him in the eyes sounding confident and aggressive, “He knows I am here and he knows what I want to do to you.” As she finishes her last word, she can feel his manhood getting very hard, just like a large lead pipe and notices Randy breathing faster. Releasing her grip she looks at him, “Not now you are too excited. You need to wait.”

“I am not too excited and I can’t wait.” Randy tries leaning forward to kiss Mary and tries pulling her towards him.

Taking a step back, she then takes his hand placing it on her chest, “You need to learn to wait. The best things as those that are enjoyed over a period of time.”

Mary then walks over to his couch, sitting down, and unbuttoning her top two buttons. “It is getting hot in here. Why don’t you come over and join me?”

Randy is feeling as though he is running a marathon in a half-hour, “Maybe you would feel more comfortable in the bedroom?”

“Not yet, maybe a shower together might be what I need?”

Randy walks to the bathroom starting the shower. As he undresses he realizes he has not felt like this for years. The bathroom is a ¾ bathroom with shower and it comfortably fits one person standing. Mary undresses in the hall leaving her clothes there. She waits for Randy to get into the shower and she joins him.

“This is cozy. Let me wash you.” As Mary reaches for the bar of soap she lathers it up. As she does, she notices that is he relatively free of hair on his back and chest. Reaching for his chest she notices it is soft and feels fragile. Gently applying the soap to him she moves in gliding his hand between her thighs. “This is what I like.” She moves in feeling his erect penis against her thigh and he tires getting closer. “No need to rush. You must wait,” pausing for a moment, “it is better. Trust me.”

A few minutes later they are in the bedroom, her hair still wet, Mary lays on the bed spreading her legs. “What are you doing? Are you going to fuck me or what?”

“It has been a while. I am nervous.”

“It is okay, we got all day.”

Randy lays next to her and starts slowly feeling her delicate smooth skin. Noticing her nipples are erect and laying waiting for him to take command. She turns to him, gently kissing him and pulling him towards her. He kneels in front of her, bending forward to kiss her, and stroking her face. Mary grabs his hard 5.5” cock looking at him, “I been waiting too long fuck me.”

He slides into her noticing how wet and hot she feels. She feels tighter than what his wife felt like and Mary’s tightness further arouses him. The tight feeling and remembering his wife, before her death, made him move faster. Mary moved in response to his direction and he could feel a flood of pleasure building within. He cannot hold back much longer and soon he fills her with his cum. Soon he goes limp, pulling out of her, and lying next to her.

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Part 7: Coping with having a threesome a.k.a facing the realities of having a threesome


IMG_8702How do I handle having a threesome?

Porn movies leave us believing beautiful people just rip-off their clothes and a threesome just happens without impunity. Whereas talks shows and news programs during sweep week wants us believing having a threesome will lead to some cataclysmic catastrophe. Since the topic of having a threesome is not openly discussed and not much honest information is available, what we believe about having a threesome is not always true. Somewhere between the two extremes is where 99.9999% of all threesomes occur. This article will explore the remaining 99.9999% by talking about the issues and what you can do in order to get through it.

Being a part of a threesome

Up to that point a threesome remains somewhat abstract and it can be difficult to understand what it means to have a threesome. Having a threesome means having sex with someone else whereby you watch, you have sex with the third person or a combination of the two. This means at some point, as a couple, one of you will be having sex with someone other than significant other while the other watches. If it is your first time it can be quite erotic or it can be very brutal. Also, it means what you are feeling versus what you are witnessing can be quite different.

In my honest opinion there is no way to completely prepare for it beyond discussing it along with discussing your feelings. Then after the threesome talk about the experience and anything it made you feel. In addition, I believe that if you get jealous, angry, or easily upset then having a threesome may not be the best choice for you.

A threesome cannot be undone

As a threesome approaches it is possible that you may look towards it with a child-like glee and there is nothing wrong with that. It protects from over analyzing it and keeps us from worrying too much about small details. The problem is up to the the point of undressing and penetration a threesome can be stopped. However once intercourse starts there is no way to stop it and the only thing that can be done is viewing the experience differently. It is therefore better to make the decision slowly with much thought then rush into whereby you regret it later.

Feelings for the invited third person can develop

It is easy to say it is important to keep feelings separate from having sex. No matter how much we try to rationalize sex, the reality remains sex is a very intimate act and when intimacy is involved it is likely there will be some emotional attachment.

How do you minimize or prevent feelings from developing is not easy but there are few suggestions worth considering. The below are suggestions and each couple will need to consider them in light of their situation:

  1. Avoid choosing friends: A relationship and feelings already exist. Having a threesome can bring these feelings to light and make a threesome very complicated.
  2. Do not make getting to know the third person a very drawn out situation: If your goal is not a ‘poly’ / open relationship threesome then taking a lot of time in getting to know the third person is not needed. Instead when contacting the third person the contact should be limited in collecting enough information to make an informed decision about having a threesome with them. This means once the question, “Am I comfortable enough with them to have sex with them?,” can be answered then proceeding with the decision should occur. Simply put having a threesome is about sex over a short-period of time and not developing a long-lasting emotional relationship with the third person.
  3. Limit involving the third person: Because the act is intimate there maybe a desire to invite the third person to social events and / or treat them like a friend. The more they are involved the greater the chance feelings might develop.
  4. Keep an emotional distance from them: This restates number 2 and 3. Also it means avoiding questions or behaviors that will elicit feelings developing for them. The best thing the contact with the potential third person should be kept to an absolute minimum.
  5. Limit the number of times with the same person: The more you have a threesome with them the more likely feelings will develop.
  6. Develop a network of threesome friends: Having a network of friends that you have threesomes with and share an interest in threesomes with will help to reduce the chance that feelings for an individual will develop.
  7. Look at putting boundaries in place to protect the relationship and limit feelings from developing. You know yourself the best and if there are certain actions / behaviors that might lead to develop feelings then putting in place boundaries to prevent it will help.

As a couple the two of you will have different experiences

Even though the two of you are in the same room and experiencing it together your reactions may be remarkably different. It is possible one of you may enjoy it while the other may be indifferent. Likewise one may enjoy it while the other absolutely hates it. It is important that your threesome planning take this possibility into account.

In my opinion, we are all different and experience things differently. I believe threesomes are about enjoyment and pleasure instead of trying to have the same viewpoint about a threesome. The best way, I believe, to prepare for this is being ready to accept each of us are different and react differently. Also I believe, trust and knowledge about your spouse / partner factors into this. If you can trust your partner and you know your partner then it will go a long way in making a threesome a positive experience.

You are in this together

As adults we make adult decisions that requires us to make a decision where the outcome is not known. This means the decision to have a threesome is a decision that is made together and made with the understanding that each individual participating share the responsibility for its success / failure. Also it means, throughout the threesome process taking a ‘team approach,’ I believe is much better than approaching it as, ‘how can I get my needs met?’ Moreover during the threesome, applying the ‘team approach,’ means focusing on your partner and their needs to ensure they are being met instead of the third person’s needs.  At first the idea of focusing on your partner may sound counter-intuitive but if you apply the ‘team approach’ idea, it means working together ensuring each of you are happy in the threesome. Then, if you continue with having a threesome, focusing more on the third possible becomes more of a possibility.

So, how do you approach a threesome as a team and then transition focusing on the third person? The best way is communicating about your needs and expectations. Then discussing them with the third person and set their expectations. By continuously communicating about having the threesome, your needs, and its impact on you then as a team the two of you can work together in ensuring each individual need is met.

Non-monogamy is stigmatised


Another great article by EroticZeitgeist regarding non-monogamy and the societal prejudices that are held about the growing lifestyle. I believe, this article sheds some light onto issues faced by those who choose a non-monogamous lifestyle and it is an excellent article for someone wanting more information. In my opinion, this is an article well worth reading.

EroticZeitgeist

The non-monogamous relationship is becoming still more popular. But we have a lot of prejudice towards people in non-monogamous relationship and very little knowledge. People in monogamous relationships often find it very difficult to understand non-monogamy and even when non-monogamous people are explicitly happy they are still regarded as someone who live a sexually riskier life, they are less accept-able, they are expected to have lower relationship quality, they are expected to be less sexually satisfied, and they are seen as lonelier than people in monogamous relationship. This is all wrong and based on prejudice.

tIt is interesting though that when asked about men in non-monogamous relationships separately then they are regarded as more sexually happy than monogamous men and happier than women in either type of relationships. This indicates that people find that men are happier with multiple sexual partners but they don’t believe that this is the case…

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Cuckolding and the power of sloppy seconds


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Sloppy Seconds a curse or a great benefit?

Introduction

Earlier today I was reading an excellent blog about ‘sloppy seconds’. It started me thinking about my own experience with the topic and how I define it. To begin with, the author in the article uses the term, ‘sloppy seconds, liberally. ‘Sloppy seconds,’ as I understand the author’s definition refers to a  man who is second to have sex with a woman after another man finishes having with her and then  uses a sex toy before having sex with her.

Whereas my experience with ‘sloppy seconds, is where a woman after she has, in most cases, gone bareback with another man then goes on to have more sex with a different man. As a result of already having sex she is ‘stretched’ and has cum leaking out of her. Since she is having sex with another man she has not bathed in between lovers and the second gets to experience her much more fully. Regardless of how the term is defined, it can carry very a negative connotation with it but if you become confident enough in yourself, it can be a very powerful experience.

If I wanted to write a thesis on the topic by using the definition by the author and discuss the numerous times using a large vibrator and how it felt to fuck her her wide pussy from it. In my opinion, this would make reading about those experiences quite boring. Instead I will reflect on the few times where we have invited another man to join us or to allow her to have sex on her own.

Experiencing ‘Sloppy Seconds’

For Me

It is difficult to put into words the sheer excitement sharing you spouse can bring along with the devastating crippling fear too. Nonetheless when it is my turn to enjoy her after being enjoyed by another man it was an experience that stimulated all of the senses. Nothing can compare to the musk smell, after sex. It is a powerful smell that is not easily masked. Someone on the street might find it repulsive. However when she is laying there naked with her legs spread and tells you how she was fucked by him, the smell is more intoxicating than alcohol. The smell fills the room like incense. Unlike incense it lingers for a few days.

Visually when I look at her labia they are redden and swollen from already having sex. Her vagina is visually wider with whisker burns of where he was on her. Depending on how long she had sex sometimes I am able to see cum leaking out of her.

Then when I finger her there is a sticky feeling and sometimes back-flow still leaks out. Having sex is quite different. Entering is a lot smoother due to her being wet from cum and she is not necessarily wider. Instead I would say she is stretched, which is a totally different feeling. While I play in my mind the events that just occurred, experiencing every type of possible emotion. From worrying about what just occurred to sheer excitement over just occurred. It is a flurry of emotions that took days, afterwards, for it to settle. From my experience she is still horny from the experience and does not want to spend a lot of time in foreplay.

For Her

Having sex with someone else is a mix for her. She gets enjoys having someone else fuck her and then come home to have sex with me telling me about the experience. It provides her such a large release and I believe it gives her some power. The downside to it for her, the experience is quite powerful and she does not want to get hurt.

Finally

In my opinion it is easy to understand the negative connotation of the word. ‘Sloppy seconds’ puts the second male in the position of having to compare himself to another male who just enjoyed the woman in front of him. For a man who lacks confidence, it can be quite a daunting intimidating. For the man that has enough confidence in themselves and their relationship, it can be a drug more powerful than any known drug available. The power of ‘sloppy seconds’ can be something that obliterates the confidence of a man who lacks self-esteem thereby destroying his relationship or it can be a glue that cements a relationship. Only time can tell which one it will be and planning such an experience needs to be done cautiously.

Debunking cuckold myths


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Introduction

Cuckolding is slowly entering the mainstream, as an accepted sexual practice, and it is gaining media attention. As it gains attention, the media will focus on the more titillating aspects with the hopes of driving ratings and attracting viewers. Such decisions present a biased view. leading couples to make decisions based on a particular viewpoint. It is important any couple seeking to try a cuckold has all the information. This article will explore some of the more common myths.

Cuckolding is a fetish

This author is aware of many people will argue cuckolding is a fetish but this author disagrees with them. A fetish by definition refers to an item or body part that is needed for inducing sexual arousal.  Since cuckolding is a sexual act and the majority of those into cuckolding can get aroused without being in a cuckold relationship it implies it not a fetish. Even taking a very liberal interpretation of the definition, whereby participating in a cuckold is needed for arousal the definition of fetish still does not apply.

Viewing cuckolding as a fetish, from the perspective of the couple, implies there is dysfunction in the marriage because the woman needs to have sex outside of the relationship for them to become aroused. Also, it implies the couple has to incorporate a third person into the relationship in order for both of them to be happy. For the bull, the male that is outside of the relationship, it implies he is only able to relate, sexually, to someone that is involved in a relationship and it suggests that he is not able to have a relationship with a woman himself.

In this author opinion equating cuckold with a fetish is wrong since it implies the primary relationship is somehow dysfunctional. and creates the wrong image for cuckolding.

Cuckolding is BDSM

While this author feels there is a strand of cuckolding that falls under BDSM. The particular strand that falls under BDSM this author believes is cuckolding that involves:

  • Humiliation due to small penis size
  • Using sex with someone else as a punishment / reward
  • Using sex with someone else as humiliation
  • Using male chastity device to deprive the male of having sex  or intentionally withholding sex while having sex with someone else

It is important to note, any BDSM activity is done with their partner’s knowledge and consent.

This author believes not all cuckolding is BDSM. Instead this author believes there is another form called couple cuckolding. Couple cuckolding differs from cuckolding that traditionally falls under the BDSM definition in three respects. First, the woman once she returns from her encounter shares her sexual experience with the other male with her partner and second, the man in the primary relationship is not submissive. Finally the person she chooses does not necessarily have to be male.

Couples who practice cuckolding cannot accept their marriage is over

It is true cuckolding can destroy a relationship but it is not always true that couples who take part in cuckolding see it as a way to keep a failed relationship together. Cuckolding if done right can enrich a relationship and fulfill it too.

Cuckolding can fix a relationship

Relationships can get stale and a stale relationship can lead a person to look outside of the relationship for a sexual partner. Feeling, as though a relationship is stale, indicates there is an unresolved issue (e.g. busy work schedules, communication issue, etc) that needs addressing. Cuckolding or any other group sex experience should not be sought as a ‘fix’ for a relationship.

Cuckolding is something a couple without any ‘group sex’ experience can do

A couple of legal age and who are capable of giving legal consent can do anything legal they choose, including cuckolding. Since cuckolding involves one member of the couple having sex alone with someone else, it means the person not participating will not be present. This provides unique challenges which requires a high level of trust and the ability to effectively communicate. However, without some form of ‘group sex’ experience (e.g. threesome, wife swapping or soft-swinging), a couple may find they are unprepared for the unexpected challenges cuckolding brings.

Cuckolding is only about sex

Sex is one aspect of cuckolding. However, depending on how long the couple pursues cuckolding, it is possible that emotional bond forms with the bull, thereby forming a secondary relationship with them. A couple considering the idea need to take forming an emotional bond with the third person seriously and they need to have boundaries in place to deal with the issue.

Cuckolding is a better choice since I do not have to watch my partner having sex with someone else

Many times cuckolding is done without primary male being present. Nonetheless, watching your partner having sex with someone else is not easy but it can be quite erotic. If you are uncomfortable with watching your partner having sex with someone else and / or discussing it then it might be a sign you are not comfortable with any type of ‘group sex’ activity. Should this be the situation then it may be worth your time to explore if cuckolding is in your best interest.