Cuckolding is it right for me?

It all starts with a harmless thought

At night in bed

Laying in bed a night and she is already asleep. The room is dark and quiet.  Random thoughts begin entering and leaving without too much attention. Soon one question enters and cause some pondering, what will it be like if she was fucking someone else for me?

At first the idea is repulsive. How can it happen? She will never go through with it, let alone consider it. Even if she will consider the idea, it will never happen and if it did happen, she will make sure not to enjoy it.

Knowing she will not go through with it is not enough to allow the question to pass like the others. Soon an image enters. She is laying naked on a king size bed with white sheets and her legs spread. On top of her is male but has no face. They are embracing and he is inside of her. Looking at her, it is obvious she is enjoying it.

Now mere thought of her being with someone else is upsetting and invokes feelings of anger. Soon the feeling of anger subsides and something about the image catches your interest. As you lay there looking at her and thinking about the image of her being with someone else, it is not long before getting hard. Soon feelings of arousal and joy replace feelings of repulsion.The image of her with someone else is arousing and the idea is something you begin considering before asking yourself, is cuckolding right for me?

Foreplay

It starts out with a very suggestive texts during the day in order to seduce her when she gets home, “You look sexy,” “I Love You,” “When I get you home I am going to do nasty things to you.” She reciprocates by texting suggestive photos back along with describing how wet her texts got her. Arriving home from a long day at work, sex is the meal being served. Neither of you are hungry for food but hunger for each other. Supper is delayed for the both of you to feast on the pleasures that await for you in your bedroom.

The bedroom is dark with some light cracking the curtains and the hallway light the seeps into the bedroom from the slightly open door. Each crawls into bed pulling up the blankets and holds the other. Soon light touching and caressing is replaced by intense arousal that involves intense lustful kissing. Soon the kissing settles and the room electrified with an intense hunger for the other. She positions herself into a missionary position suggestively saying, “do whatever you want to me,” that is followed by “making me cum really hard.”

Her challenge “opens the door” to test her reaction of being shared. While eating her out, she moans and her body moves with her stroke of her clit. Soon you begin fingering her and describing a scene where another man fucks her. Initial thought, “she will say I don’t like this,” but she reacts positively getting even hornier before coming hard.

Describing be taken by another man, her lack of resistance, and her cumming hard suggests she is open to the idea? As a result a question arises, how do I take it to the next step? Followed by, how do I make it happen for her? Instead the question should be, “is cuckolding right for me?”

The basics

What is cuckolding?

Today, cuckolding is a word creeping into our everyday vocabulary.  Just a few years ago, very few knew what cuckolding is but with social media more people are showing an interest in practice. Before being able to answer the question, is cuckolding right for me? It is necessary to understand the practice.

Traditional Definition

When we hear the cuckold it is natural to assume it is a fairly new word that has grown out of the sexual liberation of the 1960s. Nonetheless the genesis of the word cuckolding goes back nearly 500 years as the word for an unfaithful wife.

As time progressed and the word cuckolding became a part of our everyday vocabulary, the usage expanded. Today it covers a variety of sexual practices where the husband, in most cases remains monogamous, but his wife takes on at least one male lover outside of the relationship. In such cases, unlike in the past, it is done with her husband’s knowledge and consent.

Liberal Definition

Visit a few web sites that talks about cuckolding and it soon becomes apparent cuckolding is quickly becoming a dumping ground for any group sex activity that loosely falls under the definition of wife sharing. Wife sharing involves a inviting at least one other person Likewise, there is a tendency to use the word to cover sexual practices that are more synonymous with swinging, wife sharing, and wife swapping. Some will argue this usage is incorrect and I agree.

Couple’s cuckolding

So far in this discussion, cuckolding involves some form of BDSM or some form of group sex activity. Now, I am going to add a third definition. This definition involves wife sharing, though excluding gang-bangs and orgies, while incorporating some aspects of traditional cuckolding.  It does not involve forming long-term emotional relationship common to traditional cuckolding and it does not involve opening-up the relationship.

I call couple’s cuckolding.Couple’s cuckolding tends to fall in between the strict interpretation of the word cuckolding and the more liberal definition that includes all types of group sex activity that falls short of being classified as an orgy. Under the strict interpretation of cuckolding, the practice includes a BDSM element such as: humiliation, domination, submission, and discipline. The practice, for some couples moves from being a role play activity into a lifestyle that is dominated by their rules. Couples who take cuckolding to the extreme may practice withholding sex for a period of time, using a male chastity device, and may involve some form of discipline if the rules are not followed.

Also under the strict definition, it is the wife who takes on a male lover, other than her husband. Her contact with her male lover, is usually done outside of the home and usually, though not always, without her husband being present. This implies cuckolding, when using this definition, has a quasi open relationship element to it and a quasi polyamory element to it.

Whereas couple’s cuckolding eliminates the quasi polyamory and open relationship element by keeping the experience at the level of sexual enjoyment instead of focusing on relationship development. This means there may be some BDSM elements to a couple’s cuckolding but it is not a dominating feature. Likewise, couple cuckolding is not meant to become a lifestyle but something a couple will under take for periodic mutual enjoyment. This means couple’s cuckolding probably resembles a threesome but without her husband being present. Instead his enjoyment comes from her regaling her experience and if she chooses, sharing sloppy seconds.

Finally for this article, cuckolding will incorporate the traditional definition and couple’s cuckolding.

Is cuckolding right for me?

Laying in bed and thinking about your wife having sex with someone else or role playing it as a part of foreplay is not sufficient to know if it is a good choice.  Knowing if cuckolding is the right choice involves discussions, reflection, and understanding expectations for everyone before reaching a decision. Nonetheless there are a few questions to ponder to help in answering the question:

1. Do I accept there is a difference between the reality of cuckolding and how it is portrayed in the media?
2. Am I comfortable in various situations?
3. Can I be assertive
4. Am I comfortable with my spouse / partner to speak to them about absolutely anything?
5. Do I wait for all of the information before making a decision?
6. Do I get easily jealous?
7. Am I prepared to share my wife with someone else?
8. Am I am willing to accept the changes to our relationship that will occur?
9. Can I accept there will be someone else in her life that may be as important as me?
10. Am I willing to support her?

Finally

There is no correct answer to the question, is cuckolding right for me? The above questions are meant for reflection and are meant to help with the decision of suggesting trying cuckolding. They are also meant to help the individual understand some of the issues involved and the challenges they may face. It is important to remember, cuckolding is fundamentally different than having a threesome and therefore puts different demands on a couple.

The answer is only found after reflecting, researching the topic, and discussing. Only then, can a couple truly answer if cuckolding is right for them.

Related Articles

Having the Initial Discussion

What should I expect?

Planning a threesome

Threesome Variations

Couple’s Cuckolding

Why couples choose cuckolding?

Characteristics of successful couples

Easing into cuckolding

Follow me

Follow me on Google+

Follow me on twitter – @3somes3

Follow me on tubmblr

MFM questions for a couple

Potential questions for a single male to ask a couple

The power of a mfm threesome relationship resides with the couple, since they have a choice of many men they can invite. This means they can reject the male they are communicating with and choose another.

Unfortunately this can leave the single male feeling powerless since he knows they couple has many choices of available males and if he asks questions then he may push them away. Reality is asking questions ensures the single male the couple is a good fit for them, it shows the couple he respects their relationship, and by asking the appropriate questions will reduce the chance the single male will be a part of any relationship drama.

Below is a list of possible questions to ask the couple. The list is not an exhaustive list since the list cannot anticipate every possible response and many questions a that need to be asked are based on the specifics of the planned threesome. Instead this list is meant to guide the single male regarding questions to ask the couple and couples an idea of the information they should be communicating to the single male. The questions are listed from easier questions to ask, from this author’s perspective, to asking the socially difficult questions.

If you do use all or any of them, this author would like some feedback regarding their usefulness in order to make the necessary changes to them.  Also, if any of the questions are not clear or you feel more needs to be added the please let this author know.

1) Have you had a threesome before? IF the couple states ‘Yes’  then follow-up with

a.   If so, how did each you feel about it?

b.  How did it impact your relationship?

2)  What is the reason for the two of you wanting this threesome?

3)  How did the two of you reach the decision to have a threesome?

4)  What are your boundaries? IF the answer is we have ‘none’ or it is vague then asks as a follow-up?

a.  Is kissing acceptable?

b.  Is anal sex a possibility?

c.  Will you be performing oral sex?

d.  Can I ejaculate in your mouth?

e.  Bareback or condom?

f. Feelings on male on male activity?

g. Any other questions in order to define acceptable boundaries

5)  Where do you want me to cum?

6)  Will your partner be participating or watching?

7)  Will this be a one-off or are you looking at meeting again? Alternatively you can ask, “would bringing in another girl in the future be on the table?”

8)  What do you not like?

9) What do you enjoy?

If the answer is vague or ‘anything’ then potential follow-up questions, provided they it is something that they have not stated    they do not like in the previous question.

a.  Do you enjoy being fingered?

b.  Anus being played with?

c.  Being eaten out?

d.  Do you enjoy your nipples being sucked?

e.  What positions do you enjoy

f.  DP

10) Who do you want to have sex with first?

Related articles

• Relationship requirements for a threesome (3somes.wordpress.com)
• Why some couples choose full threesomes (3somes.wordpress.com)
• Where do negative feelings after a threesome come from & how to address them (3somes.wordpress.com)
• Etiquette of accommodating (3somes.wordpress.com)
• Couple’s Cuckolding and the ‘what’ scenario (3somes.wordpress.com)
• Defining threesome, swinging, and open relationship (3somes.wordpress.com)
• Problems with quid pro quo as a negotiating position for threesomes (3somes.wordpress.com)
• Writing an ad – Advice for single males (3somes.wordpress.com)
• Threesome myths (3somes.wordpress.com)
• Questions regarding overcoming resistance to threesome (3somes.wordpress.com)

Meeting Victor

The phone rings daily at our house and it sounds the same. It reminds me a lot like watching a television show that you have seen so many times you know it by heart and you can do anything while watching it because it is so familiar. This time, however, the ring makes my heart race and palms sweaty as I heard Maria in the background saying, “we look forward meeting you.”

At the point I knew she will be saying, “George you need to get ready and we need to leave within the hour.” From experience, I know, Maria cannot get ready in a hour and most likely it will take us nearly an hour and half before we are out the door. Nonetheless I will humor her and show her that I can be ready within the hour.

“George”

“Yes dear”

“Its a go. We are meeting Victor in a hour at our favorite restaurant.”

“An hour? Don’t you need more time?”

“I have already showered and all I have to do is put my make-up on. That should not take me more than 20 minutes. We are going to be late if you do not hurry.”

“I know. Did you tell Victor we might be late. We both know when you believe 20 minutes it is more like a hour. You still have to get dressed?”

Looking at Maria I could see a girlish glee come across her face, as though she is going on her very first date. I know not to be critical of her and I know not to crush her idea of her being ready in 20 minutes. If I do then it is going to have a negative impact on the evening.

Tonight is some ways is a first date for her since it is our first time having a threesome and we spent a lot of timing planning it. The last thing that needs to happen is starting the evening on “the wrong foot,” by making inappropriate comments.

“What do you think I should wear?” She asks standing in front of me topless and with the light in the room actuating her her perky 34B breasts.

“I think maybe your black dress with your black strapless bra and no panties might be a good idea?” Walking away she goes into the bathroom closing the door. “I need to get showered and ready too.”

“I do not want the mirror to steam and I will be out in a few minutes.”

A few minutes actually was actually more like a half-hour, “You know when are not going to be out the door within the hour since I am still not ready.”

Taking the shower gave me a minutes reflecting on the evening and what it will entail. It made my heart race and it gave me an erection in the shower. Also, it made me nervous about lies ahead and how I will be able to handle everything.

Dressing after the shower Maria was ready and we left. “Did you let Victor know we are running a few minutes late?”

“Don’t be foolish, I told him since it was short-notice we will get there when we can.”

“How will we notice him?”

“He told me that he will get a table and to ask for him once we get there.”

Walking into the rest restaurant it feels different and then to ask for Victor’s table it made the experience even more odd. “Victor’s table, please”

“This way,” said the hostess.

“We finally meet. I am George and you have already spoke to Maria.”

“Nice to meet you, please sit down.”

The conversation was fairly typical about the weather, our jobs, and what we like to do. This took us through the drinks and a part of the meal. As we were growing tired of the pleasantries I began shifting the conversation towards sex. “I understand Victor you find my wife attractive?”

I could see Victor staring at Maria’s cleavage and his attempts to put his hand on her leg.

Face flushing bright red Victor responds nervously and cautiously, “yes I do.”

“You do not need to be shy about it Victor we are all adults here and we all are here for one reason.”

“I know,” Victor said.

“How about you come back to our place Victor for some after supper drinks and we can talk more about how much you find Maria attractive?”

“I would like that.”

“Good, we will pay for supper and you can follow us back to our place.”

With that said I paid for supper and we got into our car. “Are you sure you want to go though with this?” I asked Maria

“Yes I would love to have the both of you fuck me tonight.”

A few minutes later we arrive at our place, “Why don’t you go upstairs to make yourself more comfortable and we will join you in a few minutes, dear.”

Giving Maria a chance to get ready I pour Victor and myself a glass of wine. “Maria is quite happy you chose to come back here with us. I will give her a few minutes and we can join her.”

We drank our wine and I said, “I think Maria has had enough time, please follow me.”

We walked up the stairs into our bedroom. The curtains were closed and the light was out. Only the hall light lit the room. Maria is laying on the bed naked with her legs spread and her nipples erect. I guide Victor to the bed gesturing to him to eat her out and I begin to caress her nipples.

Maria begins quietly moaning, “don’t stop,” she says in a very soft and quiet voice. I can see Victor enjoying eating Maria out and she grabs his head directing it where she wants to be serviced. Then I take step back to watch and I can feel my cock being rock hard. Then I can see Victor craw on top of her sucking on her left breast while playing with her right nipple. It is not long before he rolls her on her belly and he moves between her legs to play with her ass. He starts to lick the outside of her ass before he lubricates his finger placing it in her ass.

“More,” Maria says. “Don’t stop”

At this point Victor pulls his finger out and lubricates his cock before he enters her ass.

“Oh yes, fuck me,” yells Maria

I can see Victor beginning to fuck Maria in her as by starting slow before he picks up his pace.

“Yes, oh yes”

Victor moves a lot faster and Maria’s moans of pleasure becomes louder.

“I am going to cum,” yells Maria

I can see her body tensing and then a few moments later Victor tenses shooting his load into her.

Then I move to the bed, guiding Victor out of the way. At this point Maria’s pussy is sopping wet and I can feel how hot it is. From watching the two of them fuck it does not take no more than a few thrusts before I shoot my load into Maria.

The excitement of the evening brought it quickly to an end. We thanked Victor and fell asleep in each other’s arms.

Related articles

• My wife’s cuckold adventure (3somes.wordpress.com)
• The Good Slut (eroticfantasylife.wordpress.com)
• FAQs about threesomes for couples – Part 2 (3somes.wordpress.com)
• Frequently Asked questions about choosing a third person for a threesome (3somes.wordpress.com)
• FAQs – Finding a third person (3somes.wordpress.com)
• FAQs about boundaries (3somes.wordpress.com)
• Anal Sex FAQs (3somes.wordpress.com)
• Writing an ad – Advice for single males (3somes.wordpress.com)
• Threesomes (oienn.wordpress.com)
• Threesome Terminology (3somes.wordpress.com)

Anal Sex FAQs

Anal Sex Basics in FAQ format

How important is foreplay to anal sex?

This author believes it is quite important since it helps to ease any discomfort or pain. It also helps to make the anus pliable for penetration.

How can I get over the discomfort and pain anal sex causes?

The anus and rectum are not designed for sex. This means care needs to be taken not to injure the person. Preventing injury requires care is taken with insertion, the individual is properly relaxed, and the anus is properly stretched. As a result, anal sex is something that requires time, patience, and cannot be done as a ‘quickie.’

How do I relax / How do I get my partner to relax for anal sex?

Provided there is no medical reason try taking a deep breath followed by slowly exhaling. Doing this a few times might help. Another possible technique to try is liberally and often lubricating the anus along with liberal lubrication of anything being inserted. Also, take time with foreplay to get become aroused and try to include some finger play to get the anus to relax. With that said, based on this author’s experience using enema or anal douche are not typically needed to manage discomfort.

Should anal sex toys be used?

From this author’s experience they can enhance the enjoyment. However for those who are just starting out, using toys should only be used once you learn how to manage the discomfort.

What toys would you recommend trying?

For those starting out I would recommend trying a butt plug designed for beginners. Typically they are smaller with a narrower circumference. This type of toy minimizes discomfort and is easily interted. Also I would recommend trying an anal dildo.

Why water based lubricant instead of the other forms of lubrication?

Water based lubricants will not breakdown a condom where others might.

How does anal sex fit into a threesome scenario

Using anal sex in a threesome can occur as a part of double penetration or between two people as the other watches.

What type of communication needs to occur for anal sex?

The couple / threesome needs the ability to discuss what works, what is comfortable, and being able to communicate comfort levels. Without being able to discuss what is working and comfort, enjoyable anal sex will be difficult.

If my husband / boyfriend want to try anal sex does it mean they are gay?

No it does not.

What are some of the risks of anal sex?

There is a small risk of pregnancy from anal sex, especially if vaginal penetration occurs or no condom is used.  Also there is a risk of STIs / STDs including HIV / AIDs and UTIs (urinary tract infections). Finally there is a risk of injury to the rectum and the surrounding structures (e.g. prostrate – men, bladder, urethra, colon, and vagina – women).

Related articles

• The Anal Sex Position Guide The Best Positions for Easy, Exciting, Mind-Blowing Pleasure (extratorrent.com)
• Anal Sex 101: Cleanliness (indigosoul7.wordpress.com)

An introduction to anal sex

Introduction

Have you ever tried anal sex but found it did not work because it caused pain or discomfort? Maybe you tried it and found it was like trying to nail gelatine to a wall? Anal sex is a lot like a fine wine, to be appreciated, it needs to be savored over time, it needs to be understood, nurtured, and allowed to develop.  It is something that a couple can share or be shared it in a threesome. Once it has, it is ready to be picked for enjoyment and the fruits that it can bear can be quite intoxicating.  If you are ready to learn how to grow and enjoy anal sex this guide will help you.

Anal Sex – Techniqe

If you have medical problems that involve the colon, rectum, vagina, or anus then medical advice should be sought before trying anal sex. Also, it goes without saying anal sex involves penis, a dildo, or a strap-on.

The starting point is finding the time when you are not looking for a “quickie” and there is time to devote to foreplay. Foreplay is essential for enjoyable anal sex as it provides proper arousal and by being properly aroused it helps to limit any discomfort / pain. Also it allows excitement to build and builds a bond that can bring closeness.

Once your partner is properly aroused then next step involves stimulating the anus. This should be done using a water based lubricant and it should be liberally applied. It should first be applied to the outside of the anus and your index finger. If the person who will be receiving anal sex is inexperienced then it is a good idea to us your index finger to stimulate the area around the anus before trying to insert it.

As you stimulate the outside of the anus you may feel it relax, which is good and if you do, you can try slowly inserting your finger.  Even if the anus does not relax, if it is lubricated, then you try slowing inserting your lubricated index finger. If you meet a lot of physical resistance, as you try to insert your finger, then stop and have your partner take a deep breath then slowly exhale, have them repeat it if necessary. This should help them relax the anus if you continue to get a lot of resistance then pull out your finger followed by lubricating the area again. Now try reinserting your finger again. For those just starting out this may be as far as you get the first time. If it is do not worry since it is not an issue and the next time might be easier.

If you are able to get your finger inserted, move it around. Hopefully you should feel an anus relax and become more pliable. As it becomes more pliable you should lubricate your middle finger too and insert it. Also this will be a good time to apply more lubrication to the anus. Again, if it causes discomfort then have your partner take a deep breath followed by them slowly exhaling, having them repeat if necessary. Once your partner’s anus is pliable with two fingers in it then it is most likely ready for penetration.

There are two good positions that this author believes works well for anal sex. First position is doggie style with the hips aligned for anal penetration. Second is missionary with the hips pushed forward or raised for anal sex. Other positions like cowgirl or reverse cowgirl, this author feel does not work, for anal sex since penetration is not as controlled.

Once you have chosen the position the male should put a condom on and use a water based lubricant. The condom is not prevent pregnancy since the risk is quite low; instead it is to protect against UTIs and STDs. After the condom has been put on then he needs to enter very slowly and if his partner complains of discomfort then he needs to stop. If the discomfort continues his partner should try the deep breathing, mentioned earlier in this article, and once the discomfort passes then he should continue to enter slowly, stopping when required. Then once he is as deep as he can go then he should begin to move slowly. As he moves he should be synchronized with his partner’s comfort level and if his partner appears comfortable then he can try to move faster. However he should not go too fast because of the risk of discomfort and it should be measure to give the level of enjoyment needed.

Conclusion

Anal sex is a technique if done properly can bring a lot of pleasure to all. It is something that needs to done when there is time available and may take a few attempts before it works, thereby implying patience is needed. The more a couple or a threesome can communicate about comfort levels the more likely it will work.

Related articles

• How to Make Anal Sex More Pleasurable (indigosoul7.wordpress.com)
• The Anal Sex Position Guide The Best Positions for Easy, Exciting, Mind-Blowing Pleasure (extratorrent.com)
• Best Anal Toys for Beginners (pinkcherry.ca)
• Anal Sex 101: Cleanliness (indigosoul7.wordpress.com)

Understanding the resistance to anal sex

 

 

Introduction:

 

If you wife / partner is resistant to the idea of having anal sex it is important to understand what is causing the resistance. Without talking to her and understanding the issue overcoming her resistance, convincing her, is not possible. This posting will talk about some of the more common reasons a woman may be resistant to the idea of having anal sex and some suggestions to try to help her overcome her resistance to it.

 

Bad Experience:

 

Probably the most common reason for resistance is a previous bad experience trying anal sex which resulted in feeling of pain or discomfort. Since the experience resulted in an adverse feeling she is trying to avoid that feeling again. Feeling of pain is typically the result of not using enough lubrication, not properly relaxing anus, and not stretching out properly before entry occurred. In essence anal sex was rushed and the necessary time needed to get her to relax was not taken. Whereas the feeling of discomfort is the result of entering too quickly and not allowing her to properly relax.

 

In this case the best way to address this type of resistance is to explain how things will be different this time. Explain that you will use a lot of lubrication and will to continue to apply it. Also explain that it will not be rushed, there will be adequate foreplay, time will be taken to get her anus to relax and stretch. Even though you have a plan on how to address her resistance due to pain, remember people generally avoid pain and seek pleasure. If it was a painful experience there will be less of a chance she will try it again.

 

An Ex:

 

Another possibility for her resistance is an ex. This is especially true if the relationship is fairly new, as ex’s can haunt the relationship. There are two common explanations here regarding her ex. The first is that he may have been into having anal sex and it might have been not enjoyable for her. Reasons why it could not have been enjoyable includes having it forced, he was obsessed with having anal sex, or it was very uncomfortable. In any event the experience was not pleasurable for her and she does not want to experience it again.

 

Overcoming this resistance may not be possible if he abused her or it was a troubling experience for her due to the fact she has negative feelings associated with the experience. Since she has negative feelings associated with the experience she will want to avoid to experience so that she can avoid those feelings. The best approach here is you can allow her to talk about her experience to you. By allowing her to do this will allow her to build trust in you, foster developing communication between the two of you, and develop something more deeper than sex an emotional bond.

 

The other possible explanation if it is in relation to her ex is that it was something that they shared and she does not want to share it with anyone else. Chances are that this is not a reason but if it is this indicates a problem in the relationship. If it is the reason then the focus needs to be taken off having anal sex and focus on how to solve the issue regarding her feelings for her ex.

 

Misconceptions about anal sex:

 

 

 

Anal sex for some can be a very taboo subject and misconceptions about the subject can develop. Some of the misconceptions are listed here:

 

• Anus will not go back in place
• Others will be able to tell that she has anal sex
• She will loose control of her bowels, become incontinent
• If her partner likes anal sex then it means that he is gay
• She can get pregnant from having anal sex

 

These misconceptions about anal sex falls into one of two categories: anatomical or misinformation. To begin with the anus is a sphincter muscle. Meaning it is meant to stretch and close. Provided she has not suffered nerve damage, physical injury, or had surgery to that area then her anus should return to the same shape it was before having sex. Also she should not suffer incontinence unless that was an issue before having anal. Furthermore there are two common misconceptions regarding anal sex: she can get pregnant from having anal sex and that her male partner must be gay if he likes anal sex. To begin with the rectum and vagina are separated by muscle. There is no way for sperm to leave the rectum, swim into the cervix, enter the uterus, and then the fallopian tubes to fertilize an egg. So the risk of pregnancy is non-existent. Finally some people have a misconception that if a man enjoys anal sex with his wife it means that he is gay or is hiding his sexuality, totally not true.

 

Addressing these misconceptions relies on education and experiencing anal sex in an effort to dispel them. Educating her about her anatomy and educating her about the fact that no one can tell, including her doctor, that she has had anal sex. Maybe try reassuring her that anal sex would not occur a week before she had any doctor’s appointments.

 

Relationship Issue:

 

Anal sex at its core is about trust, patience, and communication. Generally speaking this author believes relationship issues generally are not the reason for resistance to anal sex. Usually it is attempted by a couple after they have been together for a while and after they have built up their communication. For anal sex to be successful it requires her to trust you that you will stop if she says ‘stop’, that you will not get upset with her if she cannot continue because it is too painful, and that you will not always push to have anal sex. If she does not feel secure enough in the relationship to try anal sex then it indicates that some work needs to be done in the relationship.

 

Take time to build up your relationship with her and build up your trust with her. Spending some extra time with her and letting her know how special she is to you may be all that is needed to convince her to try anal sex. Also, try anal sex when the both of you do not feel rushed and have the time to enjoy the experience. This may mean getting her to relax to enjoy the experience.

 

She is not interested in having anal sex:

 

 

 

Even though the rectum is rich in nerve, blood supply and some woman find having anal sex to be more intense than vaginal sex not every woman is interested in trying anal sex. For whatever reason the idea may not appeal to them and they may not want to try it at all. In this case it is best to let the topic die due to the fact no matter how hard you try you will not convince her. She will have to come to conclusion to try anal sex on her own.