In previous articles such as ‘Asking a Couple for a Threesome,’ and ‘FAQs for Single Men Desiring a Threesome,‘ the thrust of the article was avoiding common mistakes that single men tend to make when approaching a couple for a threesome. This article will take earlier information further by discussing, an approach that I call couple-centric can help increase your chance of success by following seven pieces of advice and help you stand-out from the other 100 single men that are contacting the couple.
1) Accept you are not unique
Accepting this goes a long way in attracting a couple. Many times single men believe:
- A couple is searching for a threesome because there is an issue in ‘the bedroom’ and somehow the male cannot satisfy her.
- A couple is searching for a single male with a specific attribute (e.g. age, muscular body, large penis)
- A couple does not get many replies because the practice of having a threesome is taboo
- They are the only male the couple is communicating with about having a threesome
Reality is, you are not so unique that a couple can find another male to meet their needs. The challenge for you is not rest on your laurels and work with a couple.
2) Be Socialble
Being sociable is crucial for a single male. Too often a single male focus on the goal, the threesome, and forget the journey they need to get to that point. Having a threesome is a journey that goes a complex social dance that lasts as long as necessary and each point being social.
In a mfm situation it is the couple that is in charge. This means it is important to get everyone feeling comfortable and it means being able to make ‘small talk.’ Being able to make ‘small talk’ and being able to hold a conversation while focusing your attention on both will be vital in the early stage. Ignoring the male in the relationship, rushing the ‘social pleasantries’ like ‘small talk,’ or not being able to hold a conversation are potential ‘death nail’ with the couple.
3) Think like a couple
Too often a single male will view having a mfm threesome as a way to have NSA (no strings attached) sex with the extra baggage of the boyfriend or husband being present. For the couple she has already made her choice and she has chosen her partner. A single male in their threesome is nothing more than a tool for their sexual enjoyment. For them choosing a single male is who is the best fit their needs at the moment.
For a single male it means putting aside their need and understand the couple, such as:
- What type of single male do they want for their threesome?
- What has brought this couple to consider the idea of having a threesome?
- How does the single male fit into their plans?
- Are there any underlying relationship issues that could impact the threesome?
- How do they communicate?
- What is their style of communication? How can you adapt your communication style to fit their?
4) Understand the couple
I almost included this section with number 3 but felt it was better to keep each point simple. Also I felt it is important to highlight a couple begins their search for a single male at different points in the threesome process
Understanding the couple involve putting yourself in their place. A couple will look for a third person for a threesome when there has been some agreement to at least look. Some couples will be:
- Looking to see what type of male is available in their area before deciding to have a threesome
- ‘Testing the water’ to see if, as a couple, they can go through with the idea
- Wanting to make a few connections with different single men before deciding
Whereas some couples might:
- Already committed to the idea of having a threesome and are looking for the ‘best fit.’
- Looking for a single male that can fulfill a specific fantasy
- In some cases they might be looking for a bisexual male
It is important when speaking with a couple about a potential threesome that latitude is given to them by accepting not every couple searches for a single male at exactly the same point. Some may begin the search to only decide that it needs to happen slower or they may make the contact before coming back. Whatever the situation, I believe, a good single male will listen and support the couple by understanding their journey.
5) Understand the single male role in a mfm, mmf threesome
Previously stated, a couple has many choices for a two male threesome and being sociable can go along ways in attracting a couple. The second part of that equation is an understanding in most two male threesomes the single male role is to enhance the pleasure of the woman. This does not mean he needs to have unique sexual abilities that the other men has and it does not mean he needs to have a larger penis than the other male.
Instead it means, he is there as a someone to help the couple expand their enjoyment and he is also there to work closely with the other male in multiplying her pleasure. This implies the single male needs to be adept in social situations, a good communicator, and someone who is able to work well with others.
Next, it is not uncommon for a couple to choose a single male that has more threesome experience than themselves. Sometimes a couple makes this choice because they want someone to guide them into having a threesome and in this type of situation the single male need to be patient with them. However if they are not comfortable with the need then they should tell the couple.
6) View any discussion as a chance ‘to meet the friend you knew existed but never met.’
This simply means approach any potential threesome conversation as a chance to make a friend and not a threesome. Reason for saying this. not every contact will lead to a threesome. It is better to have a positive attitude and a good perspective than being hostile because a couple did not choose you.
7) Accept Rejection
This goes very closely with number 5 because rejection will happen. A successful single male will accept not every couple will choose them and they are comfortable with this reality. Because they are positive about the experience that is something a couple will notice and having a positive attitude can be a powerful mechanism for making yourself stand-out among the hundred other men that are contacting the couple.
The above seven steps are meant to give more insight to a single when speaking with a couple about having a threesome. Arguably for a couple it sheds some light onto the characteristics of a good single male. Furthermore this article is meant to give a usable approach that will not work in every situation but will help increase the chance for success. If you forget everything in this article except one thing then the one thing should be, every couple is unique with their own requirements. Do not push the couple into a decision but enjoy the time you have communicating with them and even if nothing transpires then it is possible they may become a friend and who knows where that friendship might go.
Part 1: Writing an Ad
Part 2: FAQs for Single Men Desiring a MFM Threesome
Part 3: Perils of Using a Friend or Co-Worker for a Threesome
Part 4: Asking a Couple for a Threesome
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