10 Word Press articles you may have missed during the week of 19 May 2014

Intro

Another week is upon us and time for another list of 10 articles or stories you might have missed. This week there is a lot of variety including stories and information on polyamory.

Highlights

Polyamory Without Rules = Chaos is a well written and insightful article regarding the need for couples who have polyamorous relationships to establish boundaries. Even though the article focuses on polyamorous relationships the article is applicable to any couple desiring a threesome, cuckold, open relationship or foursome.

Power Play and Passion: Consent in the Kink Community is a very well written thought provoking that transcends the topic of sex and touches who we are as people? At the core of the article it asks the question, how much do we have to emotionally detach from people to have sex? Do we have to detach so much that we dehumanize the experience and see those with whom we have sex with as objects instead of humans?

On Cloud 9 and Script for a Threesome are two good stories worth reading.

1) Quad Weekend by Krystalla

2) Polyamaory Without Rules = Chaos? by Loving Without Boundaries

3) Safe Sex and Open Relationships: You Can Have your Cake and eat it too by Dancetinyfox

4) Power Play and Passion: Consent in the Kink Community by Polysingleish

5) Chapter 2 Michelle’s Journey of Becoming a Hot Wife by Threesomes and Variations

6) A Fantasy Shared by Cummins Girl

7) Script for a Threesome Will I be So Lucky? by Libido Bootcamp

8) Who is Better by Kinky Tiger

9) Poly Is Poly Isn’t by Diary of a Sadist

10) On Cloud 9 by Sublifedelight

April’s list

Week of 22 April 2014

Week of 15 April 2014

Week of 29 April 2014

May’s list

Week of 5 May 2014

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Chapter 2 Michelle’s journey of becoming a hot wife

Chapter 2

After four hours on the road and sex we are exhausted. We did not want the chaos, noise and screaming children that comes with a buffet. In some ways a buffet restaurant is like a war zone navigating children running in the restaurant, screaming children sounding like incoming bombs, and customers that will take your life in order to get the last homemade bun on the island. Instead we chose a nice quaint and quiet restaurant in the hotel that afforded us a level of privacy.

Quietly while looking into Michelle’s eyes, “I am beginning to have doubts about your plan… I mean it made me really horny but I do not know if I can go through with it.” In the dimly lit room I can see her smile fade and her jaw drop.

Taking a drink from her water glass she holds it in her hand while trying to keep her voice low but sounding upset, “I am not doing this for you! I am doing it for me!” slamming the glass on the table. Yelling very quietly, “Do you think it is enjoyable to have the same cock in for all these years? Do you think maybe… just maybe I want more?”

Looking around it does not appear anyone heard her. Feeling as though my life is imploding I look at her seeing her angry and hurt face. In an attempt to bring enjoyment back to our vacation, “Look I am not saying I am against it. All I am saying I am having my doubts. It is not a slam against you. Like anyone who is facing the spouse having sex with someone else, there always will be doubts.”

“I have not had a lot experience with other men and sometimes I question if I should have a few more experiences before marrying. Now, we are in Vegas and I want to let my hair down. It is nothing personal against you. It is something that I am going to do and I ask you support me.”

Not much else was said during supper and as we are finishing our dessert Michelle looks at me, “I am going for a walk alone after supper. Keep your phone on.”

She left. I sat there ordering a glass of red wine and as I sipped on the wine I feel my phone vibrating. Taking the phone out of my pocket I see I have a text from here, “Guess what I am doing?”

My heart races, experiencing sheer joy to anger before questioning how to respond. I know, deep-down, what she is doing but the question is how do I approach it. If I come across uninterested it will upset her and if I am playful then I will get hundreds of text messages from her. It is all a part of her game.

So I decide to respond, “I am sitting in the restaurant having a glass of wine. What are you doing?”

“Do not wait up for me, I am sitting here with Robert and a few of his friends.”

“Have fun” I text back to her.

After another glass of wine I head back to the room. I am in the room for about an hour and have not heard anything from Michelle. Then I hear my phone receiving texts from Michelle. Looking at the phone I see are a few texts with photos in them. The first says, “I hope you enjoy” followed by several photos of her with guys in various states of being undressed. One shows her topless kneeling in front of a guy pulling off his pants. Another one show her laying naked on a table with three naked guys standing around her. Final photo shows a guy fucking her while she is sucking another guy and her stroking an erect cock of a third. After receiving the last photo text the message said “see you soon.”

When I first saw them I felt emotionally number, not knowing how to respond. Then my heart began racing, my penis became quite erect, and I could barely contain myself. A few moments ago I felt tired but now I am quite awake. It was about another 15 minutes before Michelle walk through the door looking disheveled.

“Do you want to know what happened?”

“Yes, I am quite horny and want to hear about your night.”

Walking to the bathroom she being undressing and fills the bath. “After leaving the restaurant I went to the casino playing the slots. Robert sits next to me talking me up. I enjoy it and talk some more. Then he mentions a few of his friends are having a party in his room and if I would like to join them. ”

Pausing to test the water of bath she adjusts it a bit to make it warmer. At that point I can smell sex on her. It is a very musky smell combining with a smell of rotting cheese. “We are in the room and they give me a glass of wine. We are all talking and laughing. Then one of them asks me if I would give him a blow job. I am not sure. However we are all having a good time and I figure why not. So I take my top off, kneel in front of him, pulling down his pants. It is a big cock, about 9″ and I start sucking him.

The other guys start undressing and they undress me too. Soon we are all naked. At that point seeing all of the naked men around me and getting horny at the site of me, I feel as though I want to fuck them all. So I crawl on to the table letting him one have their turn with me. It was incredible.”

Hearing her describe the scene to me even made me more horny. “Are you mad?” asking with a sullen tone in her voice and sadness across her face.

“No, I want to fuck you when you are done with your bath.”

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10 Word Press articles you may have missed for the week of 12 May 2014

Intro

This has been a very busy week for me a death in the family and having to travel to travel to London for an unrelated event. Nonetheless, I have had a chance to pull another list together.

Highlights

A Cavalier Attitude to Sex is a nice but a bit chaotic article that I normally will not choose to list. However, it discusses how obscenity is defined in Britain by shining a small penlight onto the laws that govern sex in the UK by discussing the Peacock case. I will not the Peacock case here beyond saying obscenity is not defined by a ‘community standard,’ but by a patchwork of cases and laws. This leads to a very confused interpretation of the term and forces many to take a defensive position to protect against possible litigation.

It’s Raining Men is a welcomed and refreshing article from Lifeofalovergirl. I always look forward to reading her work because it is insightful and it gives a perspective about relationships that is difficult find.

Six Studies that Offer Fascinating Conclusions about Human Sexuality even though Boy Lu5t titles the article 6 Studies, he only lists 1 – 5, which I can overlook since it the rush to publish you do not check your title fully aligns with your numbered list.  It is a good article that summarizes some recent research.

List

1)  tarte à la crème by Boy Lu5t

2)  Thursday Thrust by Pyx

3)  Poly What?: I Just Like Dick in my Butt by sodomgomorrahreporting

4)  A Cavalier Attitude to Sex by Sometimes It Is A Cigar

5)  Chapter 1 Michelle’s Journey of Becoming a Hot Wife by Threesomes and Variations

6)  10 Facts About Infidelity by Boy Lu5t

7)  It’s Raining Men by Lifeofalovergirl

8)  Six Studies That Offer Fascinating Conclusions About Human Sexuality by Boy Lu5t

9)  When Polyamorous Goes Wrong – Why I am Not Polyamourous but You May Want to be by Elisabeth Sheff

10) Being Primaries and Dynamics Shifting by Adventures of the Soul

April’s list

Week of 22 April 2014

Week of 15 April 2014

Week of 29 April 2014

May’s list

Week of 5 May 2014

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Chapter 1 Michelle’s journey of becoming a hot wife

Start of our vacation

Michelle’s summer 2009 vacation with me brings many fond memories. We were ‘on the top of the world’ with Michelle’s promotion and my successful business. As a way to celebrate our new success we decided to drive four hours to Las Vegas for a week-long getaway and at the time I did not know what would transpire.

We left on 15 July and that day is permanently etched in my mind. It was a hot sunny day without a cloud in the sky. The type of day when being out side in the sun for more 10 minutes mean you are dripping with sweat and the anything that can cool you down is a very cold beer. Because it was so hot outside we decided to take our BMW with it rag-top roof so we can drive with it down.

About an hour after leaving Michelle turns to me with her long black her blowing in the, and her sunglasses covering her blue eyes and her oval face with perfectly flawless skin. As we travel 70 mph down the interstate, she grabs my arm in order to grab my attention. Looking down and away from me she sounds nervous when she says, “I have something to ask and I am not sure what you are going to say.”

At that moment my heart begins racing and stricken with fear, “What can she be wanting?” I know we have been busy and for the last two years our careers took precedent over our relationship. Not sure I knew what she was going to say, I acted as though I was focusing on the road even though there was not another car for at least a mile.

Then there was a bit of playfulness in her voice as her fingers walked up my arm and she lightly grabbed my forearm as she pulled herself into me. Her touch was very welcoming it made me feel close to her and for the first time I in about two years work was the further things from my mind. “I have been thinking maybe this week I could be naughty for you.”

I became hard, my breathing increased, and my mind started rushing with many possibilities. It became difficult to concentrate and luckily we were the only car on the road or there might have been an accident. “What do you mean?” Sounding surprised and nervous.

“Well,” pausing for a moment, “I have not been completely honest with you.”

“How, so?”

“I know how you fantasize about me fucking another man for you in a threesome and I have resisted the idea. Well, lately I have been thinking how great it would feel to have another cock in mean and feel him exploding deep inside me.”

If it was not so hot and if I was not driving, I probably would have had an instant orgasm that would made me cum inside of my pants. For the next three hours that is all I could think about happening on our vacation.

Vegas

 

It was mid-afternoon during the hottest part of the day when we arrived at our mid-strip hotel. We entered our hotel and Michelle immediately wanted to shower. After her proclamation in the car I knew I wanted to fuck her right now. “You can shower once I am done with you.”

Throwing her to the bed, I unbutton her white silky blouse and quickly unhooking her bra, exposing her 36 B breasts. The right breast is slightly smaller but when she is aroused her nipples get very erect. As I begin undressing her I notice how smooth her skin feels. It feels delicate and smooth as a rose petal. Too rough it would destroy it. Moving down her abdomen towards her thighs, kissing every inch, I begin sliding her pants off exposing her hairy mound.

Each time I touch it she quivers and gasps for air. I do not move immediately for her pussy. Instead I tease her a bit by kissing and caressing her inner thigh. Watching her tremble each time I touch her.

Once I have thoroughly aroused her, I begin stroking the side of her clit and I see it is quite enlarged. Then I use the tip of my tongue to stroke her clit as I begin to finger her wet moist pussy. The tightness and warmth of it is quite inviting. As I pull my two fingers out her moisture drips from my finger.

By this point I am quite hard and cannot wait no longer. Slowly entering her I can feel her vagina envelope my hard penis. At first I move slow, wanting to savor the image of another guy inside of her and her pussy grasping his shaft as he goes deep in her. Then I envision him uncontrollably thrusting his cock deep in her and her screaming in pleasure. Soon the picture is too much and I explode in her, filling her up with cum.

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10 Word Press articles you may have missed for the week of 5 May 2014

Intro

This week has been slow, with only a few pieces being published. Hopefully I have chosen a good cross-section that everyone can find something they enjoy.

Highlights

So What Are You Doing Friday Night? While I believe a bit more editing would have helped, nonetheless this article is a thought provoking article examining men responding to a woman who is the one pursuing them for sex.

Infidelity Fantasies a great short piece talking about the fantasy many men have but do not mention, being aroused by their wives cheating on them.

1) How I Seduced My Friend’s Wife by sexualimaginist

2) Jake’s Story (Chapter 2) by Tales of a Slut Wife

3) So What Are You Doing Friday Night? by Pyx

4) Infidelity Fantasies by Boy Lust

5) Caution! Tipsy Post by Krystalla

6)  5 Laws for Establishing Boundaries by Threesomes and Variations

7) 13 Things Porn Teaches Kids That Schools Does Not by Beyond The Tabloids

8) Surprise by Smarlene

9) Is Swinging Coming Out of the Closet by A Walk in the Snow

10) A Visit from a Friend by Sissymaid Diaries

April’s list

Week of 22 April 2014

Week of 15 April 2014

Week of 29 April 2014

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5 Laws for Establishing Boundaries

Intro

What is the biggest mistake someone who never had a threesome can make? Besides pressuring your spouse to have a threesome, in my opinion it is not having boundaries.

From my first threesome with my wife, we had a few very simple boundaries:

• One-off
• No contact afterwards
• We agree to have a threesome is a mutual decision and we will not use it against the other at a later date
• With the other invited male, we agreed it would be a straight threesome with no contact between the men.

The boundary about being a mutual decision and accepting that we will not use it against the other, I believe, is the one that has helped us the most. Since it is the boundary that took the power away from any potential conflict arising from the decision.

Unfortunately some who have a threesome for the first time, approach it ‘starry eyed,’ wanting their spouse to freely enjoy the threesome without limits. Only to find, as she passionately kisses her new-found lover before he ‘goes down’ on her before burying his head in her wet pussy that is craving his long hard cock, and fearing their relationship is about to end. At that fearful moment having the epiphany that having a few simple boundaries might have helped him reduce some of his concerns and allow him to enjoy the threesome.

So how do you set up boundaries?

1) Should be Clear

‘Over Engineering’ a boundary accounting for every potential event does not need to occur. Instead a boundary should have the same understanding for all involved. If the a boundary is no oral sex then everyone understand what makes up oral sex. Instead of assuming everyone has the same definition of oral sex.

2) Should not conflict with other boundaries

A boundary should give security about the extent an activity will occur and it should not conflict with another boundary. If there is a conflict between boundaries then it is likely a boundary will be violated leading to, at least, lack of enjoyment and at its worse the end of the relationship.

3) Limit the number of boundaries

Writing a laundry list of boundaries increases the chance some will be forgotten or even worse, ignored. Ideally try to keep the boundaries somewhere between 3 to 7. A boundary need to be broad enough to cover most situations and clear enough that everyone understands the expectation.

4) Periodically review them

Over time people and needs change. As you become more comfortable with cuckolding, having a threesome, or polyamory you will find there is less of a need for rigid boundaries. Nonetheless there will still be a need for some type of boundary and a boundary can change to meet the changing needs of your relationship.

5) Accept responsibility

Having a threesome is a decision made by three consenting adults who have an equal voice. The only person that can decide to go forward to have a threesome is yourself. If you discuss boundaries then take responsibility for the discussion and any later agreement that is made about them.

 

10 Word Press articles you may have missed during week of 29 April 2014

The number of articles posted this week appears to be less than last week, which meant less posts to read. I do not know if it has to do with the Bank Holiday in the UK, the start of the baseball season in the US, or increasing nice weather. As a result I have shorten this weeks list to 10.

Highlights

Cover Almost Blown by Hope Swings well written but short article describing the dangers of linking your swingers blog with your twitter profile. It is a good article reminding us how quickly our privacy can be blown.

Becoming Her Eunuch, is a good article for cuckolding fans. It is short, albeit, incomplete glimpse of what it is like to be totally submissive husband.

I am Such an Awesome Wife, by Krystalla is a short poignant article about giving permission to her husband to have sex with another woman and not feeling guilty about the decision. While many of us would say ‘yes,’ only to fear we made the wrong decision or state ‘no way,’ Krystalla shows it is possible to say ‘yes’ without the guilt.

Not All Women Swingers Are Bi by Krystalla is a gentle reminder not every woman interested in a threesome, foursome, or another variation of non-monogamy is bisexual.

1)  How to Separate Sex from Love by Threesomes and Variations

2)  21 Points to consider before having your first threesome (singles) by Threesomes and Variations

3)  Emotional Strength and Polyamory Go Together Like… by Loving Without Boundaries

4)  Cover Almost Blown by Hope Swings

5)  Becoming Her Eunuch by mdsh143

6)  My Reminders by mdsh143

7)  I am Such an Awesome Wife by Krystalla

8)  Not All Women Swingers Are Bi by Krystalla

9)  Fantasy Fulfilled by Awakening of Kitty

10) Getting a Little Risque 😉 by Lifeofalovergirl

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Week of 22 April 2015

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21 Points to consider before having your first threesome (singles)

Am I ready for my first threesome?

It is amazing the transformation attitudes towards having a threesome has gone through over the last 25 years. It has gone from the image of ‘seedy’ couples and ‘sex crazed’ guys to an acceptable practice. It goes without anything the transformation is incomplete and more needs to be done. However, it is now possible for both single men and single women to fulfill a part of their sexual need through a threesome. The reasons why a single man or a single might seek a threesome for their sexual need varies greatly, from wanting to explore the idea to being too busy for a relationship.

With that said, looking for a couple to have a threesome with can be time consuming endeavor that may yield no results or the results may not be what the individual was expecting. Plus it can mean making sacrifices in your personal life in order to have a threesome.

Below are some points for single men and women to consider before deciding to begin their search for their perfect threesome:

1)   Do I have the time to search for a suitable couple?

2)  Do I understand what is involved with having a threesome?

3)  Do I understand having a threesome is not like the porn movies and I will be interacting with real people?

4)  What is my sexual identity? Am I comfortable sexually interacting with someone of my own gender?

5)  Can I be outgoing, sociable? Am I able to start and hold my own in a conversation?

6)  Can I deal with rejection?

7)  What do I want from a threesome?

8)  Can I deal honestly with the couple and deal honestly with myself?

9)   Can I keep an emotional distance from the couple? If not, then is having a threesome the best choice for me?

10)  Can I have sex with someone if I am physically attracted to them without being emotionally attracted too?

11)  Can sex be a physical experience without it leading to a relationship?

12)  Wanting a relationship and wanting a threesome are many times incompatible. If given a choice which will pick? Why?

13)  Being the ‘third’ in a relationship means you are a tool, device, or toy for the couple. Thereby implying you are not an equal in their relationship and it implies you are replaceable.

14)  Can you be submissive and not dominate the relationship?

15)  Can you be intimate with two people at once while not becoming a part of their drama?

16)  Are you able to view the couple as a couple thereby respecting their relationship and not view it is an opportunity for NSA sex?

17) Am I assertive enough to say ‘no’ if I do not feel the situation will work?

18) Am I willing to practice safe-sex?

19) Do I have a plan for my physical and emotional safety?

20) What attitudes do I hold about couples who search for a threesome?

21) Can I take responsibility for my choices?

 

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How to separate love from sex

Seven Steps to Minimize the Chance Feelings Will Develop for the Third Person

Intro

The backbone of every successful threesome is the ability putting aside feelings for the third person in order to have an enjoyable threesome. It would be remiss of me ignoring that sex is a very intimate act whereby a bond is created with those is participate and putting aside all feelings is necessary. Instead putting aside feelings mean keeping enough of an emotional distance from the invited third person that allows the marital relationship or committed relationship to continue while still being able to have a threesome.

Putting aside feelings sounds easy; however, many of buy the relationship warranty that sex must equal love or at least, sex can only occur with someone we share an emotional bond. By buying a relationship warranty means we are buying the idea that sex is about caring and that for sex to occur we first must build a relationship with them. While buying the relationship warranty is necessary for marriage or a long-term relationship, buying the relationship warranty for a full threesome can produce catastrophic results.

So, how can you have a threesome and keep feelings out of it? Below, I will give you seven points that can help you avoid buying the relationship warranty for having a threesome.

1) Limit the amount of contact with the third person

The more time all three of you spend together the more likely feelings will develop. This is a result of proximity or simply put, a result of having repeated contact with the same person.

In order to limit the chance feelings develop due to amount of time spent together, it is ideal trying to make a decision about having a threesome based on attraction instead of attempting to develop a relationship with the third person.

Also limiting the number of threesomes, such as one-off, can help reduce this risk too.

2) Limit Rewarding Behavior

Having a full threesome is more about having sex then forming an emotional attachment with the third person. This means the information being shared should be information that is necessary for a threesome to occur and not be information that allows the development of feelings.

Also, this includes limiting any rewarding behavior that encourages development of feelings. Rewarding behavior can be anything from looks, statements, or behavior that encourages the formation of feelings. Limiting rewarding behavior may sound as though the threesome is quite academic, sterile and void of any enjoyment. Instead limiting reward behavior mean finding a balance between letting the third person know you enjoy their company and creating a situation whereby ‘crossing the line’ happens the threesome becomes something more.

3) Having a History Together

Having a history together is vital. The longer a couple has been together, understand each other, and choose having a threesome as an extension of their relationship then the less likely they are developing feelings for someone else. Also having a relationship history is vital in understanding your partner, communicating with them and being able to work with them through any tough time.

4) Avoid Having a Threesome During a Period of Major Stress Relationship Stress

Stress and poor decision making are synonymous but deciding a threesome is a good choice during a major life change may be the decision that topples the relationship. Likewise avoid having a threesome during a time when the relationship is under stress since the may lead to the wrong decision being made.

5) Choose Your Third Person Carefully

Choosing the third person is vital for a successful threesome. Ideally the third person should temporarily fit into the relationship. Fitting into the relationship means:

• Each person, as a couple, agrees to them
• There is either a physical or intellectual attraction to the third person
• The third person does not leave one member of the couple feeling excluded, jealous, or angry
• They were not chosen because they can provide something that is missing in the relationship
• The third person respect the boundaries
• The third person respect the couple’s relationship, is not disruptive, and is not demanding.
• The third person understand their role in the threesome and does not try to dominate

6) Communicating  Debriefing

It goes without saying communicating and debriefing are essential to keep a relationship healthy, including minimizing the chance feelings can develop for the third person. Without communication and discussing feelings it is likely a having a threesome will devastate a relationship.

7) It Starts with You

The type of threesome you want lies with you. This means the decision

• What happens in the threesome
• Boundaries
• Regarding the third person
• How you perceive perceive the threesome
• How you perceive the third person
• How you react to the threesome
• How you react to the third person
• How you react to your spouse / ‘significant other’
• Your feelings before the threesome, during the threesome, and after the threesome

are all within your control.

Finally

Nothing in life is easy, especially having a threesome. However having an enjoyable threesome that is not disruptive to the relationship is possible but it will require work. Taking time discussing the threesome, potential choices, and its possible impact will go a long way in reducing the chance feeling for the third person will develop. Also, take time to plan it and choosing when to have it will also help. Finally all of the reading on the topic will not guarantee feeling for the third person will not develop and the responsibility for ensuring it will not happen lies solely with the couple.