15 WordPress articles you may have missed during the week of 22 April 2014


Here is another installment of good WordPress articles that have been published over the last week that you may have missed.

In case you are wondering how I select the articles to list. I have read all of them list and feel there is a great quality about them. Great quality means the author has something useful to say that relates to the topics my followers enjoy reading.

Each article relates to sex, threesomes, or a similar topic such as relationships. Generally I tend to pick well written articles in English that are at least a few hundred words in length, ideally a minimum of 5oo words but I will pick an article that has less, and provides my followers with some insight on a subject that interests them.

This week it seems as though Kirstalla’s Blog along with Sex and Regex are batting 1000 with two very well written articles this week.

I hope you take a few minutes to read them. If you like them show the author your support by liking it and leaving a positive comment.

1) TMI Tuesday –  Arousing by Filled and Fooled

2) Threesome #2 by Sex and Regex

3) Threesome Insecurities Followup by Sex and Regex

4) Surprise Party by Sexxxy Milf

5) How We Opened Up and Beyond by Krystalla‘s Blog

6) Deep Desires by Krystalla’s Blog

7) The First Mistake by Swingertopoly

8) My First Date in 8 Years by Poly Pocket of Love

9) Ethical Non-monogamy: Can Sharing Lovers Work for You? by The Wilson Report

10) We Just had an Orgy by Camgirl Sex Stories

11) Pussy Eating Treasure by Janes Illustrated Erotic Sex Blog

12) Curious Mom from the Burbs by Janes illustrated Erotic Sex Blog

13) Finding the balance: Progressing the discussion of having a threesome without collapsing the discussion by 3somes and variations

14) Fantasizing about my Cheating Wife by Cuckold Confession

15) Three by All of my Filthy Little Secrets

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Finding the balance: Progressing the discussion of having a threesome without collapsing the discussion


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Imagine for a moment having an amazing heart-to-heart conversation about having a threesome but no decision has been made about the next step. Maybe the conversation did not go as expected, a few months have elapsed, and it is time to ‘test the water.’ The challenge is finding the balance between discussing the idea and not causing a complete collapse of the idea.

Start with yourself

In previous articles the importance of understanding your needs and how you envision the threesome is discussed. This means doing some introspection, thinking about possible scenarios, and thinking about your needs. Also it requires thinking about the relationship, the risks you are willing to take, and how you may react. Finally it involves doing some research into the topic. Without having a vision of a possible threesome, revising it, and thinking about it it is nearly impossible to communicate it to your partner.

Having a history together

History regarding a threesome means being together long-enough where each person in the relationship understands how each other responds to a situation, having a communication style that is unique to the couple, and having been together long enough the couple has been able to work through a few difficult situations. Essentially, history means know what makes your significant other operate and knowing how they are likely to respond. Without understanding your ‘significant other’ the chance of catastrophic failure, when trying to progress the discussion of having a threesome, is high.

Confront Challenge

Academic textbooks are written on confronting and challenging; however for this article a brief explanation will be given. Confronting someone, sometimes referred to challenging, can provide an opportunity to persuade them by opening them up to another perspective by confronting / challenging the flaws in their belief.

Successfully challenging / confronting a belief requires a clear understanding of the direction you want to take with the discussion and enough knowledge about the topic any resistance can be met. The goal is not to start a fight to the death over having a threesome. Instead, if done correctly, the technique can be used in regular conversation and help progress the conversation by alleviating any outstanding fear / anxiety over the idea.

Time

Being human mean we change and being human mean we are not the same person we were yesterday. So what allows us to change? Our experiences, our challenges to our beliefs, and events in our lives. As a result, we learn and make the necessary changes. Regarding discussing a threesome, it can mean resistance to the idea has changed and there might be a willingness to discuss it.

So how much time is needed? My feeling if a relationship is new then at least two years before discussing the topic. This will give time to build the foundation of the relationship along with having an opportunity to work through any crisis and develop a sense of security.

Regarding how long the idea should be dropped before picking up the conversation again? There are some who feel if your ‘significant other’ says no to the idea then the topic is dead unless your ‘significant other’ bring up the idea. I disagree with it because I do not feel it is communication because a need is not getting met in the relationship. My feeling six months minimum but ideally a year. This will give your ‘significant other’ a change to think about the topic and a chance to ask any question they might have.

Relationship

Without feeling secure in the relationship  any discussion regarding having a threesome will fail. This means the first step in striking a balance require that security and trust are present.

Conclusion

Answering the question where does the limit exist for discussing a threesome when there is resistance to the idea or the direction is not clear? The answer is dependent on the situation and the couple. This means history together, the depth of feeling secure, and the ability to communicate are essential if the discussion is to progress. Without feeling this and without feeling confident about discussing the topic then it is likely this issue remain unresolved.

Other articles you might enjoy

https://3somes.wordpress.com/2014/02/22/family-message-about-sex-and-impact-on-wanting-a-threesome/

https://3somes.wordpress.com/2013/12/18/working-through-the-tough-times/

https://3somes.wordpress.com/2013/12/08/what-makes-a-couple-successful/

https://3somes.wordpress.com/2013/10/24/perception-and-cheating/

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10 Threesome WordPress Artilces you may have missed


Below are some great articles that you may have missed this week on Word Press and I hope you take the time to read some.

The Zen of Making a Threesome Liberating by Threesomes and Variations

The Power of Threesomes by Dancetinyfox

How to Have a MFM Threesome Without Being Bisexual by Threesomes and Variations

On Being a Part of a Triad by anitrafigueroa

Being in Control Doggy Position by janeseroticblog

Today She Admitted Her Preference for Her Lover  by hercuckhubby

My Out of Control Horny by Monkey in a Cage

The First Mistake by Swinger to Poly

Do You Fantasize about Your Wife Having Big Cock Sex by Love Small Penis

The Worst Sex Face Ever by The Shit Show That is My Life

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The Zen of making a threesome liberating


ready for cuckoldingImagine for a moment, an opportunity whereby you can do something sinfully forbidden, do it with no strings attached, and have sex with someone else with your partner present? How about an experience that involves some risk but might improve your relationship by bringing the two of you closer?  Experiencing such a decadent experience requires the ability to want something more for your relationship, the courage to take a calculated risk, and the willingness to ignore what society teaches about relationships. So how can a couple, completely enjoy a something that is sinfully forbidden and not feel guilty later?

The answer is understanding the power a threesome can hold. To begin with, lately, I have been writing about how a threesome can be liberating without providing much of an explanation. Liberating in this sense means being able to break free of the expectations society holds for a couple and not feeling guilty about it. Also, liberating means to power to feel closer to your spouse by seeking experiences that can bring your closer regardless of our previous teachings about relationships.

For her it means being an equal. Being an equal means ignoring the message about monogamy, what a good wife does, and being able to put aside her feelings for her husband in order to put her feelings first. Having a threesome can mean she is a true equal by being able to sleep with someone she chooses without feeling the guilt that society teaches from a very young age and she is able to it within the confines of a loving relationship.

If threesome is done right then the sexual fulfillment she feels is the result of her relationship with her husband and their dynamics that told her it was okay to feel sexual fulfillment from having a threesome.

For him it confirmation that his partner is sexually desirable and for some men, it can be fulfilling a basic need he has something that others want. By confirming this basic need, it can reinforce the need to keep her happy or risk losing her.

Another liberating aspect for him is making her happy. Through providing another sexual partner for his wife / girlfriend that pleases her, he increases her happiness thereby making him happy. His happiness, in this situation, derives from making his wife / girlfriend happy.

The liberating experience of a threesome can be said to be an experience that increases happiness and commitment to each other by putting aside the requirement that a couple remains monogamous, physically and emotionally, to each other. A couple that is willing to take a calculated risk by experiencing a threesome may find that payment on their investment pays off by bringing them closer.

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The Power of Three(somes)


When considering the idea of having a threesome we want an ironclad guarantee that it will be successful, enjoyable, and our relationship will remain intact. Many of us look at a threesome like buying a new car with a try before you buy or money back guarantee. Some may look at having a threesome like calling a psychic hotline, seeing the future and knowing the outcome. Without some type of guarantee or without knowing the results of the threesome it makes many of reluctant to try it.

Dancetinyfox offers something worth considering and something I have been recently discussing too, liberation. The idea of having a threesome because it offers an opportunity to experience a unique form of happiness. The opportunity to selflessly share your spouse with someone else then bask in the happiness that it may bring through a loving and supporting relationship.

This article, for some, can offer a route to relationship happiness and fulfillment.

 

The Power of Three(somes).

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How to have a mfm without being bisexual


IMG_8704After receiving the ‘green light’, regarding exploring the idea of having a threesome, we quickly realize there are many hurdles that need negotiating before reaching the sought after threesome. Probably one of the earliest hurdles that presents itself is the threesome paradox:

Having a fmf means investing a lot of time with the most likely result being the second woman is bisexual. Thereby leaving out the male. However having a mfm may mean finding someone quicker but it will mean an assault on male-half of the couple’s sexuality?

One solution maybe  quid-pro-quo whereby the couple agrees to have a fmf and mfm only to find either they are unable to find a willing woman to join them or the man refuses going through with the planned mfm because it calls into question his sexuality. In this article, I will explore a guaranteed way of having a mfm without male-on-male contact

So, how do you have a mfm threesome without involving male-on-male contact? The first step is changing the mindset. Having a mfm is not about sexual identity. Speaking from personal experience, having a mfm threesome is about sharing and making his wife / girlfriend happy. Arguably, it is doing something for her and the relationship. For his wife / girlfriend and for them as a couple it is about liberation.

This means having a mfm is about an emotional experience whereby a couple can feel secure by trusting each other. By having a mfm threesome the man is giving permission to his wife / girlfriend to enjoy someone else, trusting her feelings will remain for him and she will not violate the boundaries they have set. Also, he is trust the male the invite will respect their boundaries, respect their relationship, and enjoy his spouse / girlfriend.

Final step is selecting the correct male. From my experience, I do not believe homophobic males make a good choice for a threesome. I believe they tend to view having a threesome as a way to have ‘no strings sex’ and can get obsessive about anything that might seem gay. This can create issues in the threesome especially between the males and finding someone who is comfortable with their sexuality is a better choice.

Also I believe there is no guaranteed way of finding a compatible male. Instead I believe the type of male in the situation is a male who respects boundaries, is outgoing, and someone who makes each of you feel comfortable. Then as all of you progress towards having a threesome, they are someone who looks to take cues and does not look to take advantage of any situation that may present itself.

Having a threesome whereby there is no male-on-male contact, involves having the correct mind-set. This involves each man being secure in their sexual identity and not seeing the threesome about challenging their sexual identity. Instead viewing it as an experience that can can be quite enjoyable by focusing on pleasing her. Therefore the guaranteed way to have a mfm threesome without challenging a man’s sexuality identity involves trust, communication, and a desire to share his wife / girlfriend with another man.

 

 

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On Being Part of a Triad


Quite a provocative article exposing the forbidden fruit of having multiple relationships. It is an article that I wholeheartedly endorse and I encourage you to read too.

On Being Part of a Triad.

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