FAQs surviving a threesome


English: Surviving fishing community in Beer

 

 

I have agreed to have a threesome but now I am unsure if want to go through with it?

 

Having a threesome is a personal decision. If you are not ready to have one then you tell your partner / couple know that you want to either delay the threesome or you have changed your mind.

 

Is having a threesome considered cheating?

 

Unlike an affair, where an emotional relationship is formed, a threesome is about pleasure. Therefore, in this author’s opinion a threesome is not cheating provided boundaries are respected and it is done in the open.

 

Is it possible to stay monogamous and still have a threesome?

 

It depends on how monogamy is defined. This author believes emotional monogamy can be maintained if the couple does not undertake cuckolding, does not undertake an open relationship, or enters into a polyamorous relationship. Furthermore this author believes depending on how the couple defines soft-swinging it can offer the couple the opportunity to stay monogamous while experiencing a threesome.

 

How can I cope watching my partner having sex with someone else in front of me?

 

There is no easy answer to this question and the best answer, this author feels, is communication. Take time to discuss your feelings with your partner and the concerns you have. Also talk through “what if…” scenarios and if you feel it will be too much for then take the time to consider not having a threesome.

 

How do I deal with my feelings after the threesome?

 

The best way, this author feels, is by debriefing. Debriefing means, as soon as it is practical, talk through the threesome. This means talking about at least, things that went well, things that did not go well, any concerns, and how to move things forward. Then continue talking about the threesome until both of you feel the issues have been addressed.

 

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