How do I ask a couple to join them for a threesome?
If you are single and you have friends that are married it is easy to think about having a threesome with them. This is especially true if you find that you get a long with them and the three of you have a good time together. Nonetheless, unless you are at a swinger’s club where it is implied that you are interested in having a threesome then it is very easy to misinterpret behavioral cues from a couple. This is true especially if the couple is sociable or there is an attraction between the three of you. However before approaching a couple about having a threesome it is important that you weigh the benefit of having a threesome with them, consider alternative explanations for their behavior, and weigh it against the risk. Since it would be you approaching them and not them approaching you are suggestion may be perceived as being unwelcome.
In the event you decide to suggest this idea to a couple it is important that it is done without using drugs including cannabis and done with no alcohol. Reason for this is that you want their decision to be made without influence, you do not want the couple being upset because they did something that they did not want to do, nor do you want the couple making a criminal complaint such as rape. The best way to ask in this type of situation is to be direct with them, honest about your intentions, and mention some of your observations that lead you to your decision. Also mention how you see your relationship with them being handled after the threesome and how you feel the threesome will impact your relationship with them. Once the suggestion is made your relationship with the couple will forever change and it is something you will need to accept. After suggesting the idea it is best to remember that the couple is control and by pressuring for a decision most likely lead to a negative result for you. This may mean you need to give them time to consider the idea or it may mean they will say ‘no.’ In either case accepting their decision will decide the next step for your relationship with them.
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